Man grabbed ball out of DC's hands

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From one minority to another...don't be a victim and don't teach your kid to be a victim.

This. So very, very much this!!!

[Anonymous]

My son was on a mostly Hispanic soccer team and there were so many assaults on kids like this over the 5 years he was on that team I lost count.

During game from a kid (go back to your county/spic/Mexican ... tell the referee
Sidelines parents ... report it to the league... take a picture
Random places like grabbing lunch ... I stood up for them.
At tournaments... I told the organizers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From one minority to another...don't be a victim and don't teach your kid to be a victim.

This. So very, very much this!!!

So, how exactly do you think 13 year olds should assess and react situations like this with strange adults? If you’re going to throw out slogans like “don’t be a victim” some practical advice would be helpful. When kid resists and adult injures the kid; when it’s Black kid’s word against white adult’s — and the police believe the adult.... How exactly are you —“very much this!!!” folks teaching your kids to react?

[Anonymous]

Girl

[Anonymous]

Can we just focus on the incident and not the PC terminology? Look, it was inappropriate. Just because someone White does something unjust to a minority does not make the situation racially motivated. Find the guy and have him explain himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we just focus on the incident and not the PC terminology? Look, it was inappropriate. Just because someone White does something unjust to a minority does not make the situation racially motivated. Find the guy and have him explain himself.

Hey man, bleeps are gonna bleep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously OP, does it matter that you are a minority and that the offender is white? I'm a minority too but I don't go out of my way to call out other people that are not of my ethnicity.

Your kid ran into a jerk. Your kid stood up for himself, which is a good thing. The jerk returned the ball. End of story.

And what do you expect your soccer coach to do? Open up an investigation?

From one minority to another...don't be a victim and don't teach your kid to be a victim.

Plus 1000. Coming from another minority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously OP, does it matter that you are a minority and that the offender is white? I'm a minority too but I don't go out of my way to call out other people that are not of my ethnicity.

Your kid ran into a jerk. Your kid stood up for himself, which is a good thing. The jerk returned the ball. End of story.

And what do you expect your soccer coach to do? Open up an investigation?

From one minority to another...don't be a victim and don't teach your kid to be a victim.

Plus 1000. Coming from another minority.

FWIW pretty much exactly the same thing happened to my white kid and the guy who took the ball was Hispanic. I just assumed the guy was a jerk. There will always be jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) yes, tell the coach
2) stop using the term Karen
3) I’m sorry that happened to your child

I'm guessing you must be named Karen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son was on a mostly Hispanic soccer team and there were so many assaults on kids like this over the 5 years he was on that team I lost count.

During game from a kid (go back to your county/spic/Mexican ... tell the referee
Sidelines parents ... report it to the league... take a picture
Random places like grabbing lunch ... I stood up for them.
At tournaments... I told the organizers.

Weird. My son has been on a mostly hispanic team for years. I've never seen anything like this even once.

[Anonymous]

at least he didn't take your kid's ball AND kick it into the woods

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:at least he didn't take your kid's ball AND kick it into the woods

Yeah. I do that a lot. I kind of hang around when I see some kids playing soccer and wait for the ball to go off the pitch. Then I run and get it before the kids can and kick it deep into the bushes. You should see the look on the kids faces. It's funny as hell. Especially with the younger ones.

[Anonymous]

What’s this bleep’s issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From one minority to another...don't be a victim and don't teach your kid to be a victim.

This. So very, very much this!!!

So, how exactly do you think 13 year olds should assess and react situations like this with strange adults? If you’re going to throw out slogans like “don’t be a victim” some practical advice would be helpful. When kid resists and adult injures the kid; when it’s Black kid’s word against white adult’s — and the police believe the adult.... How exactly are you —“very much this!!!” folks teaching your kids to react?

If you expect to find racism at the root of everything, then I guarantee that you'll find it 10 times out of 10. Unfortunately, some people are just (equal opportunity) assholes but that doesn't automatically make them a racist, too. Nothing that OP said suggests that this was anything more than that. OP stated that his/her child is a minority and that the man who took the ball from the child was white. Thanks to identity politics and a culture of victimhood promoted by politicians and the media, a growing number of people don't need to know anything beyond that before crying racism.

I'm not sure why you're asking how a child should react "when kid resists and adult injures the kid" or "when it’s black kid’s word against white adult’s — and the police believe the adult". Since OP didn't allege either of these things, I can only assume that you're throwing out hypotheticals here for the sake of being argumentative. Obviously it's never acceptable for an adult to injure a child and your second scenario lacks many details that have to be considered before assuming that the police were racist for reaching that conclusion.

So how would I encourage my child to react to the situation that OP *did* describe? First, I would tell him/her that they did the right thing by pointing out that their name was on the ball and also by not engaging this individual further but coming directly to me to report what happened so that I, as an adult, could pursue the matter (and yeah, I'd be pissed off about someone treating my child this way). I would also explain that some people are just inconsiderate assholes and unfortunately, you're going to run into those kinds of people from time to time throughout your life. But based on what OP stated, I would *not* tell my child, "you were treated this way because you're <insert race here>". All that does is reinforce that any time the child feels aggrieved, it's because they're a minority and the offending party is racist. No rational person would argue that racism doesn't exist but for people to make it their default explanation anytime they're treated poorly or unfairly by somebody who doesn't look like them is either naive or disingenuous. There are plenty of people in this world who will treat you like shit no matter what color your skin is. And when you live in the DC metro area, you shouldn't have to look very hard to find a good example of that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From one minority to another...don't be a victim and don't teach your kid to be a victim.

This. So very, very much this!!!

So, how exactly do you think 13 year olds should assess and react situations like this with strange adults? If you’re going to throw out slogans like “don’t be a victim” some practical advice would be helpful. When kid resists and adult injures the kid; when it’s Black kid’s word against white adult’s — and the police believe the adult.... How exactly are you —“very much this!!!” folks teaching your kids to react?

If you expect to find racism at the root of everything, then I guarantee that you'll find it 10 times out of 10. Unfortunately, some people are just (equal opportunity) assholes but that doesn't automatically make them a racist, too. Nothing that OP said suggests that this was anything more than that. OP stated that his/her child is a minority and that the man who took the ball from the child was white. Thanks to identity politics and a culture of victimhood promoted by politicians and the media, a growing number of people don't need to know anything beyond that before crying racism.

I'm not sure why you're asking how a child should react "when kid resists and adult injures the kid" or "when it’s black kid’s word against white adult’s — and the police believe the adult". Since OP didn't allege either of these things, I can only assume that you're throwing out hypotheticals here for the sake of being argumentative. Obviously it's never acceptable for an adult to injure a child and your second scenario lacks many details that have to be considered before assuming that the police were racist for reaching that conclusion.

So how would I encourage my child to react to the situation that OP *did* describe? First, I would tell him/her that they did the right thing by pointing out that their name was on the ball and also by not engaging this individual further but coming directly to me to report what happened so that I, as an adult, could pursue the matter (and yeah, I'd be pissed off about someone treating my child this way). I would also explain that some people are just inconsiderate assholes and unfortunately, you're going to run into those kinds of people from time to time throughout your life. But based on what OP stated, I would *not* tell my child, "you were treated this way because you're <insert race here>". All that does is reinforce that any time the child feels aggrieved, it's because they're a minority and the offending party is racist. No rational person would argue that racism doesn't exist but for people to make it their default explanation anytime they're treated poorly or unfairly by somebody who doesn't look like them is either naive or disingenuous. There are plenty of people in this world who will treat you like shit no matter what color your skin is. And when you live in the DC metro area, you shouldn't have to look very hard to find a good example of that!

I asked about hypotheticals because if you’re going to expect your child to stand up against random adults acting inappropriately, I think it would be helpful to at least discuss and role play some of the possibilities in realistic ways. Thank you for your response.