How much extra to pay nanny to shop online?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not just include her purchases in your order, and then she can take them home on the days they are delivered to your house?

OP here, this feels more intrusive to me into her personal life and I doubt she’d agree to let me buy all her food. But sure, I could do this.

OP, I think your instincts are right on this one. I've worked as a housekeeper and it would be way too intimate to have my employer looking at all my items!

I would just have a conversation. "We would like you to do this, would $400 make it worth your while in terms of increased cost/inconvenience. Are there problems with this proposal that we haven't foreseen?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not just include her purchases in your order, and then she can take them home on the days they are delivered to your house?

OP here, this feels more intrusive to me into her personal life and I doubt she’d agree to let me buy all her food. But sure, I could do this.

OP, I think your instincts are right on this one. I've worked as a housekeeper and it would be way too intimate to have my employer looking at all my items!

I would just have a conversation. "We would like you to do this, would $400 make it worth your while in terms of increased cost/inconvenience. Are there problems with this proposal that we haven't foreseen?"

+1. There's also the trust issue, as seen above -- some nannies will just take the extra money and use it for something else. If you treated your nanny as a member of the family, which she is, as she is raising your kids, then you would just talk to her like a trusted member of the family, and ask her what she thought about your concerns, and how she and you could work together to solve them. If money is the answer, then ask her how much she needs. Maybe $400 isn't enough.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks, PPs. This was definitely our plan - to talk to her. We have a very good, open relationship. I was trying to gauge a number to throw out in the initial conversation. My guess is she’ll say yes to anything I suggest, but I can ask her to go home and do the math to see what works for her family. I also wanted to see how many people thought this was a good vs bad idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, PPs. This was definitely our plan - to talk to her. We have a very good, open relationship. I was trying to gauge a number to throw out in the initial conversation. My guess is she’ll say yes to anything I suggest, but I can ask her to go home and do the math to see what works for her family. I also wanted to see how many people thought this was a good vs bad idea.

You mention she has a family. Would you also expect her family to stay home and refrain from in person stores and grocery shopping?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, PPs. This was definitely our plan - to talk to her. We have a very good, open relationship. I was trying to gauge a number to throw out in the initial conversation. My guess is she’ll say yes to anything I suggest, but I can ask her to go home and do the math to see what works for her family. I also wanted to see how many people thought this was a good vs bad idea.

You mention she has a family. Would you also expect her family to stay home and refrain from in person stores and grocery shopping?

Without sharing her family details - all you need to know is this isn’t an issue. Will not impact her in any other way than shopping, which is the only time she goes out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, PPs. This was definitely our plan - to talk to her. We have a very good, open relationship. I was trying to gauge a number to throw out in the initial conversation. My guess is she’ll say yes to anything I suggest, but I can ask her to go home and do the math to see what works for her family. I also wanted to see how many people thought this was a good vs bad idea.

You mention she has a family. Would you also expect her family to stay home and refrain from in person stores and grocery shopping?

Without sharing her family details - all you need to know is this isn’t an issue. Will not impact her in any other way than shopping, which is the only time she goes out.

Then a monetary incentive on top of it would be helpful but again it’s outside of work and personally I see that as an intrusion onto her personal life but other people see it different ways. I would also like to add that I do a lot of my grocery shopping at Latin markets and Asian markets because the ingredients are not available at American stores. As far as I know those places do not offer delivery or Instacart. I recognize my comment makes a huge stereotype about a nanny but I just wanna put it out there for you to consider That it may not be possible to do exclusive online grocery shopping.

[Anonymous]

You are definitely paying more per item using a delivery service, it's not just the actual fees and tip. If you can afford it, be super generous. If she shops at Aldis normally it's going to be a lot lot more. I totally understand why you don't want her to be in the stores and I don't think it's unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are definitely paying more per item using a delivery service, it's not just the actual fees and tip. If you can afford it, be super generous. If she shops at Aldis normally it's going to be a lot lot more. I totally understand why you don't want her to be in the stores and I don't think it's unreasonable.

+1

It's the fees plus the markup, which for groceries for a family can really add up. I'd offer *at least* $150/week.

[Anonymous]

I have a plus membership to Sam’s club. It allows me to ship to my home or do pick up, both with no additional fees, and the cost is still less than most stores. Yearly cost is $100. I would expect that BKs, Costco and other membership warehouses are doing the same. I’d suggest asking her to take a look at what is available and see if it would work.

Fwiw, nobody can do online orders of paper products for pick up in my area. Toilet paper involves either going in a store or buying through Amazon.

[Anonymous]

Can you give her a “company credit card” that she can use to make purchases at online grocers? Like make her an authorized user on your account the way you’d do for a kid in college. She uses that to order Whole Foods delivery, amazon prime her paper products, etc. Seems like that would be the easiest thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why 5 weeks? Two is sufficient.

this. I would not agree to 5 weeks of no stores. What if she needs tampons or deodorant last minute.... I would agree to two weeks max, five weeks is too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, PPs. This was definitely our plan - to talk to her. We have a very good, open relationship. I was trying to gauge a number to throw out in the initial conversation. My guess is she’ll say yes to anything I suggest, but I can ask her to go home and do the math to see what works for her family. I also wanted to see how many people thought this was a good vs bad idea.

You mention she has a family. Would you also expect her family to stay home and refrain from in person stores and grocery shopping?

Without sharing her family details - all you need to know is this isn’t an issue. Will not impact her in any other way than shopping, which is the only time she goes out.

Then a monetary incentive on top of it would be helpful but again it’s outside of work and personally I see that as an intrusion onto her personal life but other people see it different ways. I would also like to add that I do a lot of my grocery shopping at Latin markets and Asian markets because the ingredients are not available at American stores. As far as I know those places do not offer delivery or Instacart. I recognize my comment makes a huge stereotype about a nanny but I just wanna put it out there for you to consider That it may not be possible to do exclusive online grocery shopping.

+1, I really only go out to grocery shop but I also don't want multiple people touching my food.

[Anonymous]

This is nuts.

[Anonymous]

You should drop it. Your real risk is traveling to see this relative unless it is a no stop, short car ride away. And 5 weeks? No way is she going to adhere to that. If she is used to going to the stores she is going to keep doing it most likely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why 5 weeks? Two is sufficient.

this. I would not agree to 5 weeks of no stores. What if she needs tampons or deodorant last minute.... I would agree to two weeks max, five weeks is too much.

I put in a Sam’s club pick up order at 2am on Saturday, then picked up at 7...