Sibling Relationships after Parents/ILs Pass Away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sad I never got to have a relationship with my brother after our parents died. He died by suicide after our dad died. We were both over our heads in our parents’ addictions and dysfunctions. Caring for our mentally ill mother Drained SO much from both of us. 5 year after he death, I feel so much freer and I wish he were around to feel this way, too. Sadly, he did not survive.

I have another brother. He is a selfish POS. We do talk a couple of times a year and I follow his wife in FB and that is plenty.

I am so sorry about your brother.

It was helpful to read how much freer you feel. My mother has elderly mental illness and goes on and off meds. She is still cognitively fine so there is nothing I can do to force her to stay on them, but she lashes out, mostly at me, but occasionally at people she needs like physicians, when off meds. She thinks she is fine and she insists there "are no crazies in the family." It is an emotional roller coaster, a really bad one and my sibling is useless. It is good to know when this is all over...who knows how many years from now I will feel free. My husband and kids keep me sane..,.usually, but the burden of dealing with a verbally abusive nut is overwhelming and she doesn't even live with me.