Have you ever been a target of a Pick-up Artist?

[Anonymous]

Ages ago when I was single, I had a big group of casual friends from a coed activity and we spent a ton of time together. I had a guy friend from that group who clearly had a crush on me, but I wasn’t interested. At some point he must have read some of that early PUA/negging stuff, because he started trying it on me. Sadly, he did not have a parrot, but he did enlist a sidekick who actually wore a fedora. Not only did it not work, but it was so awful to have the negging happen in front of friends who weren’t close enough to me to swoop in and protect me that I actually dropped the activity and friend group. From what I hear, he tried it on every woman in the group and everyone went in separate directions shortly after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea. I knew what it was right away and let it play out to see what would happen.

Ended up stringing him along for a few months and getting him to take me on a nice vacation to the Caribbean. We had sex a couple times but it wasn't that great. Broke up with him when we got back home.

He still contacts me once a year or so to say hi. I think he wants to brag about his life/exotic vacations/whatever woman he's sleeping with, but I don't really care.

He sounds awful!
And you sound like you deserved each other.

[Anonymous]

Yes, they are so easy to spot with the tired negging and challenges. It’s sad to see women with no self respect falling for it.

[Anonymous]

Omg yes! I “dated” one for a few weeks before I became seriously ill and hospitalized. (It wasn’t anything that was contagious). When I got out of the hospital I returned his call to tell him I was out of the hospital but resting etc. he wanted to see me and so I said well I need to recover for a bit but how about he come by the following week. He called me back to tell me that it didn’t really sound like I wanted to see him so he wasn’t going to follow through with the plan. I said: Ok! Let’s call it off! He called BACK to retract and I was like nope! Done! This is a Oerson who, when I had gone to his apartment (ok to have sex) prior to hospitalization he had a blackboard over his bed with a calendar of various dates (girls names) filled in. So no, this wasn’t someone I was going to go out of my way for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg yes! I “dated” one for a few weeks before I became seriously ill and hospitalized. (It wasn’t anything that was contagious). When I got out of the hospital I returned his call to tell him I was out of the hospital but resting etc. he wanted to see me and so I said well I need to recover for a bit but how about he come by the following week. He called me back to tell me that it didn’t really sound like I wanted to see him so he wasn’t going to follow through with the plan. I said: Ok! Let’s call it off! He called BACK to retract and I was like nope! Done! This is a Oerson who, when I had gone to his apartment (ok to have sex) prior to hospitalization he had a blackboard over his bed with a calendar of various dates (girls names) filled in. So no, this wasn’t someone I was going to go out of my way for.

Gross. A blackboard with the names of girls he slept with OVER HIS BED!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ages ago when I was single, I had a big group of casual friends from a coed activity and we spent a ton of time together. I had a guy friend from that group who clearly had a crush on me, but I wasn’t interested. At some point he must have read some of that early PUA/negging stuff, because he started trying it on me. Sadly, he did not have a parrot, but he did enlist a sidekick who actually wore a fedora. Not only did it not work, but it was so awful to have the negging happen in front of friends who weren’t close enough to me to swoop in and protect me that I actually dropped the activity and friend group. From what I hear, he tried it on every woman in the group and everyone went in separate directions shortly after.

OMG was it Snake and Joey Jeremiah from Degrassi?

[Anonymous]

Haha, no, in this case the tall, more attractive one wore the fedora.

I’ve been thinking of those guys from my past all day after I posted to this thread. In hindsight, the sidekick’s hat was actually a Bavarian trilby. Less Degrassi, more Richard Scarry illustration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a thing? How do they expect to find girlfriends if they do this?

I thought a pick-up artist was a person who did their best to get you to go out with them. I was approached once at 15 in a museum. I'd wandered off by myself. This man came and started complimenting me, asking me what hotel I was staying at, etc, and I had no idea what to say. My mother came up, glared and he literally scampered off. She was livid.

This is what they think they are, but they use certain specific approaches that they teach each other on the internet. Such as criticizing women (yes really!), Doing magic tricks, wearing a fedora, and having a parrot. I know it sounds insane, but they are all sitting in their mothers' basements promising each other that it works.

LMAO!