| Don’t get nursery furniture!! Get a dresser for the next decade and put a changing table on top. My son just turned 2 and he’s completely out grown all of his nursery. $3500 is too much for 2 years worth. I got everything used and spent $600. In that I got a $$$ restoration hardware crib. It’s so fab and I’ve used it for 3 kids. |
| Don't get nice nursery furniture! When they're older, they will put stickers on them etc. etc. It's not worth it to try to police that, in my opinion; it's going to happen whether you want to or not. We got a nice non-toxic, low profile crib (b/c I'm short) that was about $700, which we used for 2 kids and then sold. The rest of the furniture is Ikea. That way we don't have to stress out when they put stickers etc. on their dressers and nightstands. When they get older, maybe we'll upgrade. |
Let her have what she wants. She has clearly thought it through and has good reason. Everyone always talks about not spending money on baby stuff but I’ve tended to spend more and been very happy with my decisions. My expensive but non-toxic crib has gotten nearly 5 years of continuous use with 2 kids and is going strong. |
| Go really cheap on everything wood but spend for a very comfy nursing chair with some kind of motion (glider/rocker/swivel). You also need good, soft lighting for nursing at night. If the room doesn’t have a switch wired to an outlet, get a smart bulb with a remote control so you don’t have to reach for the lamp switch while you hold the baby. |
| I think that is an insane amount but if it isn’t a stretch for you, let her. |
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I would splurge on the chair.
I would spend the minimum you have to to get a green guard certified crib and an organic mattress. For the rest of the nursery, I would honestly buy as little as you can get away with. You can buy more later when you figure out what kind of furniture you really need as your child grows. I would get a dresser that's big enough for a changing pad AND has space to serve as a night table (if you put it next to your chair). That's really all you need. |
| OP here. Thanks. We thought they it was good furniture because it’s green guard gold certified or whatever that stuff is. We are already buying the breathable newton baby mattress. My wife chose the darker color because they gray was too light and she hates white. We will keep looking but people rave about these. We have two friends who bought the furnitures and it lasted them through 2 and 3 kids. |
| Look at Stokke and Oeuf for better quality stuff and not PBK which is just a higher end Ikea. |
| Honestly the concern about toxic furniture is the biggest concern. It is beyond paranoid. I would be worried about having a child with someone that irrational. |
Buy it in advanced and let it sit in the room for 2 months to breathe. Same with the mattress. Most of that is overrated. I got darker color - I got a nice crib, maybe $500 and it was much sturdier than the $100-200 ones and still use it as a headboard. I found a matching adult dresser at another store and its nice as no need to change it out as child gets older. Wood is better as if a child chews the rail they are chewing wood vs. paint. Make sure to strap down the dresser and everything as kids start walking pretty quickly and it can get dangerous. |
Get a regular recliner that you can use vs. nursery chair. Much more versatile. |
Sounds like that horse is already out of the barn |
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We're on kid #3 and now realize what waste of money it is to buy expensive baby stuff. You get past that phase SO fast.
Everything from the expensive crib, high-end stroller, all that...the kid appreciates none of it and quicker than you can blink an eye, it's all worthless. |
OP here. I’m actually with my wife on this. I want safe stuff for the baby. We also try be less toxic with stainless steel pots, glass Tupperware, silicone storage bags, etc. We used mostly plant based cleaning to its and try to limit harmful chemicals on our house. |
OP here. I think it’s a glider. It’s one of those chairs that can recline and go side to side. |