Breaking up with your tween’s therapist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a therapist so I hear about these relationships ending from his perspective. It's fine, really. If you aren't getting what you need you should be looking for a new provider. If you don't feel like your kid is making progress the therapist probably doesn't either, it's unlikely to be a big surprise. Just a short and sweet "thank you for the help you've been and we're moving on" type message is fine.

I certainly hope you aren't hearing much else from him. Patient confidentiality and oath.

Im not that poster but just FYI it is very possible (and normal and common) for medical and mental health professionals to talk about their day in a absolutely no-identifiable info way. What this poster said was not a red flag for confidentiality violations at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:thank you all this was so helpful. Follow up, the therapist did ask to have a follow up to discuss why we wanted to change. Bottom line, the change was very healthy for our entire family and our tween is thriving w the change.

That's good it worked out. I wonder if the final meeting is a standard thing? One time I "fired" a therapist and she wanted me to meet with her one more time. It seems sort of unfair if you are already not pleased with the "therapy" that they expect you to meet and pay again. It was more to give her closure, than for me.

[Anonymous]

That's what it was for us. Wanted closure and to understand why the change. Then tried to charge us for it. I refused to pay it.

[Anonymous]

In general they don’t have final appointments because THEY want closure. They have a duty of care (and legal liability associated with that) and they want to make sure you have an safe/appropriate path forward in terms of care and follow up.

[Anonymous]

Not in our case...therapist wanted to know why the change, what we expected and what she could have done better. Never asked me what our path forward was, but I did tell her.