The way my DH talks to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the same boat with years of dh criticizing me for being over sensitive and defensive. I finally see it clearly with the way he treats my daughter - snaps at her and then yells at her for defending herself. She feels boxed in- naturally she’s going to respond with escalation. I read how to talk so kids will listen and I would recommend it for you as well. It’s really about how to communicate with empathy. I’m slowly working on my dh but he won’t read the book. He does follow my lead with parenting and so I think with time, and me modeling better communication, he will improve. This is not on you.

OP here - wait did I write that? I love that book and it is exactly how I talk to my daughter. I have asked my husband to read it but he probably thinks he is a perfect parent.

[Anonymous]

My DH blaming me for nonsense is my. pet. peeve. “We don’t have any pasta! I was going to make pasta! I was craving pasta! Why don’t we have pasta?” I don’t know buddy, I am not the keeper of the penne and had no idea you were going to have a pasta emergency today.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like my ex. He was annoyed by everything I said or did or wore or cooked. I came to the conclusion that he just didn't like me very much. It was more extreme than your examples, but it started off as a low flicker and ended in a ball of flames.