Extinction or Ferber (Timed Checks) for 6 month sleep training?

[Anonymous]

OP this is probably the hardest thing you'll do as a parent. Listening to your kid cry is pure awful. You're so lucky it was only 4 minutes!!

Stay strong.

[Anonymous]

Sooooo jealous my kid wailed on night one for 79 minutes. Still worth it, but that night SUCKED

[Anonymous]

I have two kids. One wailed, was basically impossible to sleep train. So much crying over the course of years. The second gel asleep the first night after a minute of grumbling and slept through the night after that.

They are both equally loving and affectionate and bonded to us.

[Anonymous]

OP again, I’m literally in disbelief. Aside from the 4 min hard crying at the start of the night she woke up a few more times and fussed for maybe 30 seconds each time. I’m currently pumping because my boobs feel like they’re going to explode. Planning to wake her at 7am if she’s not up by then. I’m stunned, happy, but stunned!! Will be a believer if it sticks again tonight.

To answer my own question I guess we went with extinction because we never made it to a check. I guess she just needed to be in her own room and for me to get out of her way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again, I’m literally in disbelief. Aside from the 4 min hard crying at the start of the night she woke up a few more times and fussed for maybe 30 seconds each time. I’m currently pumping because my boobs feel like they’re going to explode. Planning to wake her at 7am if she’s not up by then. I’m stunned, happy, but stunned!! Will be a believer if it sticks again tonight.

To answer my own question I guess we went with extinction because we never made it to a check. I guess she just needed to be in her own room and for me to get out of her way!

So happy for you!

It’s the negative sleep association—you feed a baby until they’re asleep, then the last thing they remember is a nipple in their mouth and being in mom’s
Arms. At the next sleep cycle they partially rouse themselves and they’re on a flat crib and think “wait, what happened? I was just in moms arms! Help!” Then the cycle repeats. If they fall asleep in the crib, then the light part
Of the sleep cycle comes and they think “oh yeah this is where I have been” and can go right back to sleep. The example in one of the books is—imagine if you feel asleep in your bed and then woke up in the middle of the night on the kitchen floor. You would be confused at the change and look for help to get back to your bedroom if you couldn’t do it yourself.

[Anonymous]

Yay OP. Hopefully this continues but if you do end up needing to train, be strong! We did Ferber, it took 5 nights and it sucked hearing him cry so much. You can do it!

[Anonymous]

Congrats!! That's wonderful!

[Anonymous]

Letting your infant cry-it-our to allow yourself a little extra time to sleep is neglectful. God forbid you tend to the emotional needs of the human you brought into the world. You’re teaching your child that if they need love or support, they have to cry alone in a dark room. Stop doing this. They will sleep through the night when they are developmentally ready which is not at 4 or 6 months across the board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Letting your infant cry-it-our to allow yourself a little extra time to sleep is neglectful. God forbid you tend to the emotional needs of the human you brought into the world. You’re teaching your child that if they need love or support, they have to cry alone in a dark room. Stop doing this. They will sleep through the night when they are developmentally ready which is not at 4 or 6 months across the board.

Hahahaha..........


I taught my children to fall asleep -- and fall back asleep by themselves. It's a great skill and they have always been good sleepers. At the moment they are in their twenties, college educated, happily employed, enjoying life!

I would have loved the extra night time cuddling. I chose to give my children the gift of being able to sleep easily!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Letting your infant cry-it-our to allow yourself a little extra time to sleep is neglectful. God forbid you tend to the emotional needs of the human you brought into the world. You’re teaching your child that if they need love or support, they have to cry alone in a dark room. Stop doing this. They will sleep through the night when they are developmentally ready which is not at 4 or 6 months across the board.

This is not true.

OP, congrats and fingers crossed for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Letting your infant cry-it-our to allow yourself a little extra time to sleep is neglectful. God forbid you tend to the emotional needs of the human you brought into the world. You’re teaching your child that if they need love or support, they have to cry alone in a dark room. Stop doing this. They will sleep through the night when they are developmentally ready which is not at 4 or 6 months across the board.

I’m guessing you didn’t have a baby that wakes up every 45 minutes all night long? And then you can’t fall back asleep easily so you basically get zero sleep and then have to function the next day? And your baby is hollow eyed and sleep deprived and crying all the time until....you sleep train her and then she sleeps better and is happier and cries less???

Didn’t think so. Not every baby fits every mold. Parent your own and don’t shame others for making different choices.