Will marriage counseling save my marriage?

[Anonymous]

You need to at least try. I can’t imagine divorcing and not trying to save the marriage. This seems like easy stuff to fix so if you find the right counselor, yes, it is fixable. Don’t assume that the first one is the best one and keep looking until you find a good fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not going to work if you go into it thinking only he needs fixing, not you.

NP. I always see people say that but what if it really is just one person that’s the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not going to work if you go into it thinking only he needs fixing, not you.

NP. I always see people say that but what if it really is just one person that’s the problem?

Then, they need INDIVIDUAL counseling. I see this with people that come from messed up childhoods with lots of trauma. They need to fix themselves and address the past that created the narcissism, abandonment, anger, and other issues, etc., before they are capable of having any success in couples counseling.

[Anonymous]

I wish there were marriage counselors that were more like executive function coaches. My husband loves me so much! He just doesn’t show it by taking care of the needs of the kids, house, cars, or even himself. I feel unloved not because he doesn’t hug me and praise me but because he never wonders about what I might want or need from him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish there were marriage counselors that were more like executive function coaches. My husband loves me so much! He just doesn’t show it by taking care of the needs of the kids, house, cars, or even himself. I feel unloved not because he doesn’t hug me and praise me but because he never wonders about what I might want or need from him.

Communicate those needs to him. He is not a mind reader.

[Anonymous]

This is my marriage a lot of the time UNLESS I actively laser focus on self care and making myself happy every day. Be a princess and the resentment will melt away and your husband will crush on your good vibes so hard. It’s very very hard, but I feel the payoff is huge long term (and gets easier too!).