Sleep Train At 4 Months Old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We loosely started 12 hours by 12 weeks at 8 weeks and our 6 month old has slept through the night since 3.5 months

Some babies sleep through the nigh early (although 3.5 is pretty nuts -- probably a lie). But not all babies do. For babies who wake up at night, it's not fair to torture them with being left to scream. No, coming in and telling them you're there and then leaving again is not what they are asking for. They are asking to be fed. They need it. They have that right when they're 4 months old.

People who sleep train small babies are sickening. CIO will be looked on as barbaric in another 20 years (probably when your own kids start having kids, and you try to tell them "We did it and you turned out fine" and they will exchange a knowing look with their spouse and say, "Yeah, we've decided not to go that route but thanks for the advice."

[Anonymous]

I don't think there is a definitove answer as it is impossible to know the true effects either way. My 4 month old was taking 2 hours to get down would sleep for about 1 hour and then be up again. I was losing my mind! He was miserable all the time. We let him cry...took 15 minutes the first night down to 0 on night three. He doubel his sleep time. He got happier. I was sane again. We could take walks and go out. It was the right decision for us. He is a very normal college student now btw. We have a great relationship and he was a n easy teen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:4 months and it was the best parenting decision we made. Babies need good quality sleep to thrive. It is cruel to let them be over tired all the time. Took 3 nights.

OP here. He was a happy baby when he was getting quality sleep 0-3 months and then it just got bad. He is always cranky and rarely happy now because he is so tired. Even when he was 0-1 and waking up every 2-3 hours to eat, he was still happy because he was getting sleep. He had such a mood change and was always happy when awake when he started sleeping 5 and then 8 hour stretches and getting good naps. Now he will cry or fuss almost all day. He will yawn and run his eyes but then he won’t sleep very long. He went from putting himself to sleep to needing to be rocked for 20-30 minutes to go to sleep.

We will do a gentle Ferber method with the 3, 5, 10 minute check-ins, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We loosely started 12 hours by 12 weeks at 8 weeks and our 6 month old has slept through the night since 3.5 months

Some babies sleep through the nigh early (although 3.5 is pretty nuts -- probably a lie). But not all babies do. For babies who wake up at night, it's not fair to torture them with being left to scream. No, coming in and telling them you're there and then leaving again is not what they are asking for. They are asking to be fed. They need it. They have that right when they're 4 months old.

People who sleep train small babies are sickening. CIO will be looked on as barbaric in another 20 years (probably when your own kids start having kids, and you try to tell them "We did it and you turned out fine" and they will exchange a knowing look with their spouse and say, "Yeah, we've decided not to go that route but thanks for the advice."

Does your kid cry in the car seat? In the bath? You kid never ever cries? Wow that's amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 months and it was the best parenting decision we made. Babies need good quality sleep to thrive. It is cruel to let them be over tired all the time. Took 3 nights.

No, it's cruel to put your needs ahead of a 4 month old baby's. Why have a baby if you can't take care of them? Did you not realize you would be waking up in the middle of the night?

I wouldn't put a four month old through that. I want the best for my children.

You do realize having a baby who wakes up all hours of the night is cruel? Them not getting quality sleep is cruel. Why have a child if you won’t teach them healthy sleep techniques? See how it can be turned on you?

Both my kids were sleep trained and it took less than 1 week. Your kid that isn’t sleep trained will cry much more than that week of crying. I gave my children quality sleep. They are both happy, and well-adjusted kids. They don’t have any issues and know they are well loved.

[Anonymous]

Every kid is different. It can't hurt to try. I have 2 that easily sleep trained and one that didn't. Turns out severe anemia can cause sleep disturbance. So I would do blood work if kid isn't trained after a week of consistent training.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 months and it was the best parenting decision we made. Babies need good quality sleep to thrive. It is cruel to let them be over tired all the time. Took 3 nights.

No, it's cruel to put your needs ahead of a 4 month old baby's. Why have a baby if you can't take care of them? Did you not realize you would be waking up in the middle of the night?

I wouldn't put a four month old through that. I want the best for my children.

You do realize having a baby who wakes up all hours of the night is cruel? Them not getting quality sleep is cruel. Why have a child if you won’t teach them healthy sleep techniques? See how it can be turned on you?

Both my kids were sleep trained and it took less than 1 week. Your kid that isn’t sleep trained will cry much more than that week of crying. I gave my children quality sleep. They are both happy, and well-adjusted kids. They don’t have any issues and know they are well loved.

PP is the type who will never, ever say no to her kid lest she make them uncomfortable for even one second. The worst kind of parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We loosely started 12 hours by 12 weeks at 8 weeks and our 6 month old has slept through the night since 3.5 months

Some babies sleep through the nigh early (although 3.5 is pretty nuts -- probably a lie). But not all babies do. For babies who wake up at night, it's not fair to torture them with being left to scream. No, coming in and telling them you're there and then leaving again is not what they are asking for. They are asking to be fed. They need it. They have that right when they're 4 months old.

People who sleep train small babies are sickening. CIO will be looked on as barbaric in another 20 years (probably when your own kids start having kids, and you try to tell them "We did it and you turned out fine" and they will exchange a knowing look with their spouse and say, "Yeah, we've decided not to go that route but thanks for the advice."

PP here. Both my kids and other friends kids had babies sleeping 8-12 hours a night by 3 months because of sleep training. Both mine started sleeping 11-12 hours a night once we sleep trained. A friend of mine did it at 2 months old and he is the happiest kid I know.

Both my husband and I are in healthcare ( nurse and doctor) and felt it was important for them and us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 months and it was the best parenting decision we made. Babies need good quality sleep to thrive. It is cruel to let them be over tired all the time. Took 3 nights.

OP here. He was a happy baby when he was getting quality sleep 0-3 months and then it just got bad. He is always cranky and rarely happy now because he is so tired. Even when he was 0-1 and waking up every 2-3 hours to eat, he was still happy because he was getting sleep. He had such a mood change and was always happy when awake when he started sleeping 5 and then 8 hour stretches and getting good naps. Now he will cry or fuss almost all day. He will yawn and run his eyes but then he won’t sleep very long. He went from putting himself to sleep to needing to be rocked for 20-30 minutes to go to sleep.

We will do a gentle Ferber method with the 3, 5, 10 minute check-ins, etc.

The same thing going on during the day is also going on at night, most likely teething. What's wrong with rocking a baby to sleep for 20-30 minutes? Jesus, that's too much comfort to give your own baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 months and it was the best parenting decision we made. Babies need good quality sleep to thrive. It is cruel to let them be over tired all the time. Took 3 nights.

No, it's cruel to put your needs ahead of a 4 month old baby's. Why have a baby if you can't take care of them? Did you not realize you would be waking up in the middle of the night?

I wouldn't put a four month old through that. I want the best for my children.

You do realize having a baby who wakes up all hours of the night is cruel? Them not getting quality sleep is cruel. Why have a child if you won’t teach them healthy sleep techniques? See how it can be turned on you?

Both my kids were sleep trained and it took less than 1 week. Your kid that isn’t sleep trained will cry much more than that week of crying. I gave my children quality sleep. They are both happy, and well-adjusted kids. They don’t have any issues and know they are well loved.

PP is the type who will never, ever say no to her kid lest she make them uncomfortable for even one second. The worst kind of parenting.

+1. There are the type of kids with attachment issues who are brats and demand everything and will cry the second you don’t get it. She is raising her child to be a spoiled brat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 months and it was the best parenting decision we made. Babies need good quality sleep to thrive. It is cruel to let them be over tired all the time. Took 3 nights.

No, it's cruel to put your needs ahead of a 4 month old baby's. Why have a baby if you can't take care of them? Did you not realize you would be waking up in the middle of the night?

I wouldn't put a four month old through that. I want the best for my children.

You do realize having a baby who wakes up all hours of the night is cruel? Them not getting quality sleep is cruel. Why have a child if you won’t teach them healthy sleep techniques? See how it can be turned on you?

Both my kids were sleep trained and it took less than 1 week. Your kid that isn’t sleep trained will cry much more than that week of crying. I gave my children quality sleep. They are both happy, and well-adjusted kids. They don’t have any issues and know they are well loved.

PP is the type who will never, ever say no to her kid lest she make them uncomfortable for even one second. The worst kind of parenting.

That's not true. I say no to my kids all the time. I 4 month old baby doesn't understand "no." A four month old baby who cries at night needs to be fed or changed. End of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We loosely started 12 hours by 12 weeks at 8 weeks and our 6 month old has slept through the night since 3.5 months

Some babies sleep through the nigh early (although 3.5 is pretty nuts -- probably a lie). But not all babies do. For babies who wake up at night, it's not fair to torture them with being left to scream. No, coming in and telling them you're there and then leaving again is not what they are asking for. They are asking to be fed. They need it. They have that right when they're 4 months old.

People who sleep train small babies are sickening. CIO will be looked on as barbaric in another 20 years (probably when your own kids start having kids, and you try to tell them "We did it and you turned out fine" and they will exchange a knowing look with their spouse and say, "Yeah, we've decided not to go that route but thanks for the advice."

PP here. Both my kids and other friends kids had babies sleeping 8-12 hours a night by 3 months because of sleep training. Both mine started sleeping 11-12 hours a night once we sleep trained. A friend of mine did it at 2 months old and he is the happiest kid I know.

Both my husband and I are in healthcare ( nurse and doctor) and felt it was important for them and us.

It's not normal for a 12 month old to sleep for 12 hour stretches at night. It's just not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 months and it was the best parenting decision we made. Babies need good quality sleep to thrive. It is cruel to let them be over tired all the time. Took 3 nights.

OP here. He was a happy baby when he was getting quality sleep 0-3 months and then it just got bad. He is always cranky and rarely happy now because he is so tired. Even when he was 0-1 and waking up every 2-3 hours to eat, he was still happy because he was getting sleep. He had such a mood change and was always happy when awake when he started sleeping 5 and then 8 hour stretches and getting good naps. Now he will cry or fuss almost all day. He will yawn and run his eyes but then he won’t sleep very long. He went from putting himself to sleep to needing to be rocked for 20-30 minutes to go to sleep.

We will do a gentle Ferber method with the 3, 5, 10 minute check-ins, etc.

The same thing going on during the day is also going on at night, most likely teething. What's wrong with rocking a baby to sleep for 20-30 minutes? Jesus, that's too much comfort to give your own baby?

OP here. He is not teething. The pediatrician looked at him and said he is not yet teething. The 4 month sleep regression is what happened. Many babies experience it. We can rock him for that long every nap and night because we work. We are rocking him 4-5 times a night and 4-5 times during the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We loosely started 12 hours by 12 weeks at 8 weeks and our 6 month old has slept through the night since 3.5 months

Some babies sleep through the nigh early (although 3.5 is pretty nuts -- probably a lie). But not all babies do. For babies who wake up at night, it's not fair to torture them with being left to scream. No, coming in and telling them you're there and then leaving again is not what they are asking for. They are asking to be fed. They need it. They have that right when they're 4 months old.

People who sleep train small babies are sickening. CIO will be looked on as barbaric in another 20 years (probably when your own kids start having kids, and you try to tell them "We did it and you turned out fine" and they will exchange a knowing look with their spouse and say, "Yeah, we've decided not to go that route but thanks for the advice."

PP here. Both my kids and other friends kids had babies sleeping 8-12 hours a night by 3 months because of sleep training. Both mine started sleeping 11-12 hours a night once we sleep trained. A friend of mine did it at 2 months old and he is the happiest kid I know.

Both my husband and I are in healthcare ( nurse and doctor) and felt it was important for them and us.

It's not normal for a 12 month old to sleep for 12 hour stretches at night. It's just not.

Meant it's not normal for a 3 month old to sleep 12 hours a night. That's an insane expectation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We loosely started 12 hours by 12 weeks at 8 weeks and our 6 month old has slept through the night since 3.5 months

Some babies sleep through the nigh early (although 3.5 is pretty nuts -- probably a lie). But not all babies do. For babies who wake up at night, it's not fair to torture them with being left to scream. No, coming in and telling them you're there and then leaving again is not what they are asking for. They are asking to be fed. They need it. They have that right when they're 4 months old.

People who sleep train small babies are sickening. CIO will be looked on as barbaric in another 20 years (probably when your own kids start having kids, and you try to tell them "We did it and you turned out fine" and they will exchange a knowing look with their spouse and say, "Yeah, we've decided not to go that route but thanks for the advice."

PP here. Both my kids and other friends kids had babies sleeping 8-12 hours a night by 3 months because of sleep training. Both mine started sleeping 11-12 hours a night once we sleep trained. A friend of mine did it at 2 months old and he is the happiest kid I know.

Both my husband and I are in healthcare ( nurse and doctor) and felt it was important for them and us.

It's not normal for a 12 month old to sleep for 12 hour stretches at night. It's just not.

Yes it is. A 12 month old doesn’t beed to be fed at night is capable of going that long without eating. You’re trying to educate people but yet you seem very uneducated on the topic. Please stop. You’re making yourself look like a fool. No one needs this CIO is cruel stuff. OP plans to sleep train in and doesn’t need your arm chair thoughts.