When did you tell parents/close family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you did miscarry, who would you tell? Those are the people who should know now. That might be just your parents or it might be the whole world. It’s a personal decision.

I agree with this. I told my mom around 8 weeks with all of my pregnancies. Waited until 12 weeks for my MIL because she is dramatic and emotional and I didn’t want to deal if I had a miscarriage (which I did for one pregnancy around 9 weeks).

I told my sisters very early. I didn’t tell anyone else until about 20 weeks for each of my viable pregnancies.

[Anonymous]

We told our parents and siblings by 6 weeks each time. We’re very close and would not have hidden a miscarriage from them.

[Anonymous]

This is totally personal.

I told my parents after the NIPT. I would have told them earlier but they can’t keep a secret.

[Anonymous]

We always told everyone right after the 8 weeks confirmation ultrasound.

[Anonymous]

After TFMR at 33 years old... not telling anyone until a 22 week scan next time around.

[Anonymous]

Told my mom and a few good friends the moment I found out so maybe 5 weeks or so. Told larger group of good friends after viability scan at 8 weeks. Told anyone after the NIPT tests around 13 weeks. Have had three pregnancies and did the same each time though pregnancy #3 was harder to get to 13 weeks without sharing b/c I showed a lot earlier.

[Anonymous]

Waited until 3 months to tell most. MIL knew a few weeks in, as she is one of those people who can just tell. I think she suspected before I even tested.

[Anonymous]

We told parents and in-laws at 6/7 weeks. In-laws got really upset at us for telling them and then asking them not to share. They said we were ruining their excitement. Next pregnancy I told in-laws and then posted it on Facebook one minute later so that I could tell friends and family before they ruined my surprise

[Anonymous]

First baby—we didn’t tell anyone until 13 weeks, after we had the nuchal translucency scan time make sure everything looked good w that.

Second baby—we told our families and close friends at 6-8 weeks. Realized we would tell them if we had a miscarriage anyway so wanted to go ahead and share our excitement. Waited to tell others (not close friends, co workers) around 12 weeks though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you did miscarry, who would you tell? Those are the people who should know now. That might be just your parents or it might be the whole world. It’s a personal decision.

For this reason, I did NOT tell my mom until 18 weeks or so. She’s just NOT good in a crisis. I had a miscarriage once at 10 weeks (we told them at 8 weeks) and I swear SHE is still not over it.

[Anonymous]

I told my parents and sibling right away. Didn’t tell my in-laws until I told others (like DH’s aunt and cousins) found out at around 3 months. In-laws heard it second hand. I didn’t want them to feel important or close enough to be told first. Second child was like this too.

[Anonymous]

We didn’t tell anyone until 15 weeks. I figure the longer I can put it off the shorter everyone else’s wait would be. I would have tried to go longer but I had HG.