Can’t tell if my work husband is interested in me or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s just a proximity crush.

Is that a thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

What gives? How can I figure out what’s going on here? Am I just the pretty work wife?

You have answered the question yourself. You are pretty. And he has told you he finds you pretty on more than one occasion. I'm a 50 year old man and I can tell you that men are not that complicated. If he thinks you're hot, he's into you. Period.

Drop a hint that you have to leave a meeting to meet with your lawyer or something. When he says "Lawyer?" you tell him about your divorce.

It's that simple.

[Anonymous]

Invite him for a drink, already!

[Anonymous]

Why not have some fun? The only issue is job related and would your job or his be at risk given you are not divorced. If there is any risk I’d be very cautious. His being 20 years older isn’t an issue if your interest isn’t long term. He would be very happy to have a fling with a woman 20 years younger.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, no!!! Don’t sleep with your co-workers!!

[Anonymous]

Also, this is an unfair abuse of “work husband” imo. The work husband is not a sexual thing. It’s just a relationship that gets really close because you spend too much time with each other. Like my “work husband,” I knew he had to go poop for 20 minutes after lunch and I knew about his kid’s teachers. I was also close with his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, no!!! Don’t sleep with your co-workers!!

This no way! Both of you should not be doing this. He is older....is he in management or your boss? If you start dating will you get any professional advantages? Now days the work place is strictly off limits. It is totally stupid for him to say the things he has said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, this is an unfair abuse of “work husband” imo. The work husband is not a sexual thing. It’s just a relationship that gets really close because you spend too much time with each other. Like my “work husband,” I knew he had to go poop for 20 minutes after lunch and I knew about his kid’s teachers. I was also close with his wife.

Yes, please! I've had several of these friendships and that's the beauty of it, there is NOTHING sexual there. We're the female friend wives and girlfriends are happy to know and interact with who remind the guy about taking a vitamin or placing an order for a birthday cake, not thinking about banging them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time he suggests a socially distanced drink, say, how about Friday?

YES - this!

don't listen to the shriveled crones here who think you should marry someone your own age and that going on a date with a friend means you'll marry them and regret it

please!

[Anonymous]

is your question "does this guy want wild monkey sex with me"?
Answer: enthusiastic YES

but #MeToo he won't go there, so you will need to make the move

[Anonymous]

Can you easily find new employment if things go south?

[Anonymous]

How low are your standards, OP? I wouldn't even entertain that idea. Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What gives? How can I figure out what’s going on here? Am I just the pretty work wife?

You have answered the question yourself. You are pretty. And he has told you he finds you pretty on more than one occasion. I'm a 50 year old man and I can tell you that men are not that complicated. If he thinks you're hot, he's into you. Period.

Drop a hint that you have to leave a meeting to meet with your lawyer or something. When he says "Lawyer?" you tell him about your divorce.

It's that simple.

This was genius. I did exactly what you said and we went for drinks this evening!!! You are brilliant! Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, this is an unfair abuse of “work husband” imo. The work husband is not a sexual thing. It’s just a relationship that gets really close because you spend too much time with each other. Like my “work husband,” I knew he had to go poop for 20 minutes after lunch and I knew about his kid’s teachers. I was also close with his wife.

Yes, please! I've had several of these friendships and that's the beauty of it, there is NOTHING sexual there. We're the female friend wives and girlfriends are happy to know and interact with who remind the guy about taking a vitamin or placing an order for a birthday cake, not thinking about banging them!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What gives? How can I figure out what’s going on here? Am I just the pretty work wife?

You have answered the question yourself. You are pretty. And he has told you he finds you pretty on more than one occasion. I'm a 50 year old man and I can tell you that men are not that complicated. If he thinks you're hot, he's into you. Period.

Drop a hint that you have to leave a meeting to meet with your lawyer or something. When he says "Lawyer?" you tell him about your divorce.

It's that simple.

This was genius. I did exactly what you said and we went for drinks this evening!!! You are brilliant! Thank you!

So how did it go?