SPD child loses it the minte we leave the school building.

[Anonymous]

Great advice - you really got the best here. One more idea since I had the same problem. Have you told her how you feel?
At home, during a calm moment, I had a talk with my 3+ year old. I told him how much I missed him during the day, but that when I finally got to him, he was crying and this made me upset and sometimes angry, especially if we had to be somewhere else. Because he was crying, I could not show him how much I missed him cause he was screaming! I did not want to feel upset and angry, but happy and glad to see him. I asked him if he missed me and he said yes. So, I also said that when people missed each other, they didn't usually cry and scream.

I asked him instead if we could come up with a different, happy greeting when we met.

Smart kid - he told me he wanted a heavy hug, a kiss and swinging upside down. Next few times, I reminded him, we did what he asked and crying calmed. It took some time, but we have had a standard greeting now for a long time - not just a hug and a kiss, but a "hug and a kid". His words.

yes - snacks help too.