Would you let nanny go in this situation

[Anonymous]

Start looking for a new nanny right now. This one is terrible and if she continues will only take that as its ok to not listen to what you want. When looking for a new nanny be very specific about what your needs/style. When interviewing ask for multiple examples, talk through how they would handle different situations, etc. When checking references ask the reference about specific things you are looking for and whether they think the potential nanny would fit with that. I've had to hire several nannies in the past 6 months (we moved, nannies were looking for a temp position, etc) and each time I was very upfront with my expectations and the reality of the situation (small apartment, no yard, not comfortable with outings, strict social distancing, no screentime). Each time I also asked more and more questions to the references do really get a sense of the nanny. There are some great nannies out there but you do have to dig a little to find the right one.

[Anonymous]

Echoing PP, you do need to be completely upfront with the nanny about expectations. However, you should be asking open ended questions of both the nanny and her references, not telling them immediately what you want to hear.

“My child is going through a phase of doing xyz. How would you handle it, both in the moment and to end this long term?” (to nanny) “Tell me about a disagreement you had with a family, what it was about and how you approached the situation. Was it resolved, and if so, how?”

“Can you tell me about a behavioral phase your child experienced and how the nanny handled it?” (Reference) Can you tell me about anytime you needed to give clarifying instructions to the nanny? How did she receive them? Did you ever need to give constructive criticism? How did she take that? Did her approach change after either/about?”

[Anonymous]

So she goes against every directive you give her and you're on the fence?!

[Anonymous]

this is random and feel free to ignore, but I just finished hiring a nanny in Md and there was one I really liked a lot (checked reference) but didn't end up hiring b/c her experience was with toddlers and I have an infant. I'd be happy to pass on her name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an odd thread.
You are literally hiring someone to raise your child for you, so why would you not discover through interview questions any of these obvious red flags that would indicate that her views and thoughts on how to go about this don’t align. Then you would have been able to see the lack of fit and her inability/refusal to raise them how you want.

OP here. Have you ever interviewed anyone? Hired someone? People can say whatever they want. Their references can even be good if their preferences were different from ours. Of course we did this. She claimed she cooks healthy meals and gave examples. She said she was very strict about social distancing and hand washing etc. She said she was fully on board with whatever discipline method the parents want. Her references turned out to be fine. The first few days she was great but it seems that when she got more comfortable in the job things changed. We spoke with her and gave her feedback and gave it a couple of months to give her a proper chance.

Tbh, You seem to have no problem articulating this really well here. So I’d just say it just like that to her when you explain why you’re letting her go.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't wash hands? I mean....

[Anonymous]

I would have given her a month max. Not washing hands is a dealbreaker in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She wouldn’t have lasted a week with us.

She wouldn't have lasted a week or an hour with anyone because she is a figment of OP's imagination!