anyone else feel weirdly embarassed to tell family they're expecting?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't usually associate a pregnancy announcement with sex.

Divine conception?

Lol no it's just not where my head is at when someone tells me they're pregnant. I'm more focused on the impending tiny human.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't usually associate a pregnancy announcement with sex.

Same.

Especially these days. So many people (that I know) use IUIs or IVF.

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I totally get it, OP.

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I am a single mom by choice and I loved watching expressions on family and coworkers faces when I announced i was expecting -- twins! Oh, if only I had had a video camera on them.

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All my kids were created in a lab, so I actually forget that people have sex to get babies. I never did.

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Anonymous wrote:I loved everything about being pregnant except talking about it with other people or telling other people I was pregnant. Two pregnancies and I never got used to it. It was always embarrassing and annoying. People immediately started treating me different (inferior) and asking constantly how I felt. I just wanted to hide and then pop out with a baby 9 months later. I never told before 20 weeks either.

This. I HATED telling people except for very, very close friends. Family and co-workers were so awkward, not so much because of the sex thing but because it's just such a personal experience and I'm a pretty private person. I felt so weird with people speculating about what's happening inside my body and feeling entitled to know about it constantly. I was privately so excited for a baby but wanted to skip the social aspects of pregnancy altogether.

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Anonymous wrote:I dreaded it. Party because I thought my mom would be judgmental about being pregnant during a pandemic, but also it’s just an awkwardly personally thing. Not just because of sex but because it’s something going on with my body. I’m glad my husband is excited about it and just tells everyone. I feel so self conscious and self centered to randomly tell people I’m pregnant. Co-workers were the worst. Like I know they don’t care, but I wanted them to know sooner rather than later I will be out on leave for awhile

+100

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I was embarrassed because we'd been doing IUI and ended up pregnant with twins and it was kind of like I thought I'd be judged for ending up on that side of a known risk. Of course everyone was thrilled and no one was judgy and now they're 4 and I'm glad I only had to announce I was pregnant once!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't usually associate a pregnancy announcement with sex.

Same.

Especially these days. So many people (that I know) use IUIs or IVF.

Good point!

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Totally, OP. I waited as long as I possibly could with my youngest. Told with my eldest before I had to and totally regretted it! Good luck and congratulations!

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Anonymous wrote:I dreaded it. Party because I thought my mom would be judgmental about being pregnant during a pandemic, but also it’s just an awkwardly personally thing. Not just because of sex but because it’s something going on with my body. I’m glad my husband is excited about it and just tells everyone. I feel so self conscious and self centered to randomly tell people I’m pregnant. Co-workers were the worst. Like I know they don’t care, but I wanted them to know sooner rather than later I will be out on leave for awhile

+100

Yes! Same here.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Totally get it, OP.

oh thank God I'm not alone

I couldn’t look my dad in the eye. I was married, home owner, etc. But still.

My sister is a few years younger and was still in school. Her reaction was totally “OMG that’s my nightmare! How are you going to tell mom and dad!?!?” Silent but obvious. Then her thoughts caught up and she realized we probably saw things differently and got excited and has been an awesome aunt (and now mom herself). But yep. I have three kids and blushed like I was confessing something every time.

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Anonymous wrote:Haha well we needed infertility treatments to get pregnant so as far as my parents are concerned I'm still a virgin.

Lol! Love it....

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Meanwhile there's a couple of threads now of people dying to become grandparents....I think you made your parents' day. They aren't thinking about how you got pregnant.
Spoiler: They know!

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You know, this is interesting because I remember that before the 1990s or so, pregnancy was kind of treated like that...something to be embarrassed about. Maternity wear ads had women in cutsey little big shirts with puffed sleeves, and the expectant Mom was always drawn in a way on the logo as kind of looking away or down, with very blushing cheeks. You know, like she was "in a family way...because, well....you know, snicker, snicker..."

I used to think that was nuts then. Now, it's all belly all the time, no puffy sleeves, no wistful glances, and no husband, really. We've evolved! Remember the old baby food or diaper commercials, where the new Mom has long brown hair pulled back with a hair band, soft blushing cheeks, and angelic looking- her BIG gold wedding band always prominent? Always!

Your parents are likely to be in the 50 to 70 range. They should be pretty enlightened about sex and societal myths and norms, so this puzzles me a lot. They wouldn't have old fashioned ideas about sex.Right?