To post or not to post...

[Anonymous]

Post! This is a perfect social media moment. Just don't brag on age, etc. Congrats -- my kids learned much later!

[Anonymous]

Usually what I think is annoying is braggy commentary not just showing a video.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get the "nobody cares about XYZ." Usually, I do! I want to see my friends' kids ride their bikes. I care about my friends and their lives.

Same. My friend recently posted a video of her kid learning to ride without training wheels. I loved seeing it!

The reality is, you can't post anything that doesn't have the remote possibility of offending someone. If you're going to be that bothered by seeing a kid riding a bike, then social media probably isn't for you. I had to take a break from it when I went through something traumatic. Now, I love seeing those posts that once made me tearful

I agree with this. Avoid being braggy and go ahead and post it. If someone is easily triggered (as I have been in the past), it's on that person to avoid social media, not for the entire world to change their behavior. Congrats to your kiddo!

[Anonymous]

Definitely no commentary. I wouldn't post to any moms groups. Is the video actually that cute or is the point really "my kid is riding a bike at 2!"

I mean honestly, why do you need to post your kid's milestones on facebook... that is the real question. Why don't you just send a video to your relatives/close friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely no commentary. I wouldn't post to any moms groups. Is the video actually that cute or is the point really "my kid is riding a bike at 2!"

I mean honestly, why do you need to post your kid's milestones on facebook... that is the real question. Why don't you just send a video to your relatives/close friends?

Yeah that's where I landed.

I feel pretty isolated right now and posting is just an excuse for some engagement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. Parents can be so insecure about milestones and some may have kids who are quite a bit behind for various reasons. If hate to make them feel less than even for a second.

But you should definitely send the video to all the grandparents, aunts and uncles!

NP. I wouldn’t intentionally hurt someone’s feelings but this is over the top. I mean, I tend to think social media is stupid and rarely post anything or react to things but I don’t live my life in fear of insulting someone else. How can you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely no commentary. I wouldn't post to any moms groups. Is the video actually that cute or is the point really "my kid is riding a bike at 2!"

I mean honestly, why do you need to post your kid's milestones on facebook... that is the real question. Why don't you just send a video to your relatives/close friends?

Yeah that's where I landed.

I feel pretty isolated right now and posting is just an excuse for some engagement.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to connect with people right now! I guarantee you’d get a lot of like and some nice comments on your video. And if some people have an issue with it, they can roll their eyes and move along. Enjoy your kid’s success, OP!

[Anonymous]

I think you should post it. Two year olds are really cute. I bet that video has a lot of cuteness. I'd be saying "awwww" and hitting the love button.

Then I'd probably rib my 11-year-old for being worse at bike riding than someone's 2-year-old. (she's athletic but lazy.)

[Anonymous]

This question is really more about you and your need for external validation. If it was just about sharing a cute video with people who (might) care, you’d send it to the grandparents and a handful of other people. Seems like a good time for some self-reflection.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather see that than the daily photo updates of a bruised foot that someone on my fb is posting

[Anonymous]

I'd totally post it. Sometimes I don't know what's even possible at different ages. Even just reading this now has inspired me to let my 3 year old give it a try. Congrats!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 2 year old learned how to ride a pedal bike!

Is posting a video of that to FB annoying?

I feel like it’s braggy because he’s so young. And also annoying bcs no one really cares.

Maybe I answered my own question.

Post. This is a major accomplishment and post here too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely no commentary. I wouldn't post to any moms groups. Is the video actually that cute or is the point really "my kid is riding a bike at 2!"

I mean honestly, why do you need to post your kid's milestones on facebook... that is the real question. Why don't you just send a video to your relatives/close friends?

You must think of Facebook in a different way than most of my friends do. It’s just a water cooler type of connecting with people. I enjoy seeing other people post both mundane life things and cute photos of kids and pets. I figure that I owe contributions of entertainment back. Do my friends really care about my college student’s move out? No. But will it spark some conversation and give others the opportunity to share? Yes. Connection.

Post your kid’s video! I’ve already seen two other kids who’ve learned to ride this spring. It’s cute and fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This question is really more about you and your need for external validation. If it was just about sharing a cute video with people who (might) care, you’d send it to the grandparents and a handful of other people. Seems like a good time for some self-reflection.

Plenty of us care about our friends’ kids and enjoy seeing photos/videos. If you don’t, Facebook/Instagram is probably the wrong place for you to spend your time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't. Parents can be so insecure about milestones and some may have kids who are quite a bit behind for various reasons. If hate to make them feel less than even for a second.

But you should definitely send the video to all the grandparents, aunts and uncles!

NP. I wouldn’t intentionally hurt someone’s feelings but this is over the top. I mean, I tend to think social media is stupid and rarely post anything or react to things but I don’t live my life in fear of insulting someone else. How can you?

I don't live in fear, I just try to put myself in the shoes of some of my Facebook contacts. I have very good friends who have dealt with infertility and others who are disabled or have disabled kids, and one whose kid is waiting for a lung transplant. That's just the ones I know about. And I know for a fact this would upset some of them, because they have confided in me. Sure you have every right to post what you want. I just wouldn't. I would send it to family members or friends I knew would be happy to see it.