Need a reality check -- Also, how do you get him to move out when he's unemployed?

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry about the situations everyone is writing about. Please know that you and your kids deserve better. Friends have used resources from the Women's Center which has locations in NOVA and DC. Good luck everyone.

http://www.thewomenscenter.org/content.asp?contentid=460

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I own my house - his not not on it anywhere. He works sothat is good. However things are nto working out he is extremely verbally abusive - it is getting worse everyday. So far there has been no physical abuse. However several times I have been scared enough that there would be and have called the police. I had it made up that was it and I want him out of here - but the police told me I couldn't make him leave that I have to go through the eviction process. Because he receives mail and his clothes are here. And if I do the eviction thing I know things are going to get even worse and he will make my life a living h@%*. I can't have a restraining order put against him because he has not touched me. I have spoke with an attorney and they have told me the same thing.

I am not an attorney, but I'm not sure you got good advice. Can you speak with another attorney, maybe ask some of the women on this listserv for recommendations?

I say this because 1) if lease/title is your name, of course police can evict your boyfriend. you probably need to document that you've asked him to move out--repeatedly--but my common sense side says there's no way they wouldn't help you. call the non-emergency number and talk to someone about what they can do to help you.

2) I can believe it would be hard to get a restraining order for verbal abuse. Could you tape him? Again, I would think a good attorney would have some recommendations here.

Hang in there.

Depending on the jurisdiction the police are correct. In some cases a person can claim tenants rights if they have stayed in your home for 7 or more days. Agree that the PP should contact a lawyer to ensure this is correct.