Does this mean I’m not ready to have kids?

[Anonymous]

I was 38 when I had my first. I'd done everything I wanted to do by then so I never missed that stuff and I've never resented my mom situation. Also, I had already broken into senior management so I had tons of flexibility to be at home and set my own schedule, and the higher income to throw money at challenges. It was sad to see the other moms struggle.

[Anonymous]

No it’s normal. My goal is to always love whatever stage I’m in. I loved everything about being DINKs (we waited 9 years) and then it flipped and I loved motherhood.

It’s okay to love your children but to also think a summer on the beach without children sounds amazing. Most parents think that. Dh and I day dream about cryofreezing our kids. I’m sure we just need a break (teleworking with no daycare) but daydreams are nice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 38 when I had my first. I'd done everything I wanted to do by then so I never missed that stuff and I've never resented my mom situation. Also, I had already broken into senior management so I had tons of flexibility to be at home and set my own schedule, and the higher income to throw money at challenges. It was sad to see the other moms struggle.

Agreed but I was early 30s. I was really sad to see the other moms struggle with money or spouses who weren’t into it. It seemed more of a problem with younger moms.

[Anonymous]

I disagree with previous posters who say everyone feels that way. I Just really wanted to have a baby and nothing else mattered. I would have really been bummed to have to put off having a baby. Parenthood is HARD. I think people should really want it.

[Anonymous]

Had DD1 at 30. At 42 weeks I can remember people asking, "Aren't you just ready to have the baby now?" and feeling inside that I was not. Nearly 14 years later I am still not over the loss of freedom. I would not even think of having kids at that age if I thought fertility would not be significantly impacted. I do believe there are advantages to having kids in your early/mid 20s and also some in waiting until late 30s. But late 20s/early 30s is the worst timing, IMHO, unless you are really really ready to put yourself in the cloister and feel like the PP that nothing else mattered.