My husband judges my parenting skills ...

[Anonymous]

You have a great routine and your husband needs to learn about the importance of independent play- its the gold standard! Totally hear you about feeling intruded on and judged- all of a sudden he's the expert. I get what you're saying- sounds like you wish there was more mutual respect for what you do- you're not alone, I have felt like that at times, too. Wish my kid did this in the morning. Congrats on fostering self-confidence and independence in your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask to see the literature DH is reading.

This. Unless you’re giving your child a screen, I don’t see anything wrong with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a great routine and your husband needs to learn about the importance of independent play- its the gold standard! Totally hear you about feeling intruded on and judged- all of a sudden he's the expert. I get what you're saying- sounds like you wish there was more mutual respect for what you do- you're not alone, I have felt like that at times, too. Wish my kid did this in the morning. Congrats on fostering self-confidence and independence in your child.

Agreed. You're doing a great job OP. This will help make your kid enjoy his own company and enjoy independent play instead for running to you every minute when he's 3 and 4 and 5. I did something similar with my oldest and she can now play by herself for at least 30 min at a time at 4. Usually longer.

[Anonymous]

I love overhearing what my youngest says while he’s hanging out in his crib - singing made up songs, talking to his stuffed animal friends...

[Anonymous]

Let me guess...White people?

[Anonymous]

Once the pandemic is over, the OP needs to go away for a LONG weekend and leave DH in charge 24/7. He will change his tune.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess...White people?

Uhhh... in what world is this ok to say?

[Anonymous]

Do you give the bottle in the crib?

If my DH did this I wouldn’t like it.

[Anonymous]

You were in the right to tell your DH to buzz off.

[Anonymous]

I empathize with you OP. My husband does this too. He tries to micromanage my schedule and interactions with the kids. Does your husband have anxiety by chance?

[Anonymous]

This is like that movie Meet the Fockers.

Ferber vs. Focker

[Anonymous]

Your husband may be commenting on the fact that you seem to need to decompress just after waking up in the morning. What were you doing all night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess...White people?

I actually had the opposite thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband may be commenting on the fact that you seem to need to decompress just after waking up in the morning. What were you doing all night?

Some people need more time to wake up in the morning. Seems like both OP and her son benefit from that time.

[Anonymous]

OP and her husband both sound like lazy parents. They have ONE kid that they can’t be bothered to care for in the morning.