Daycare and quarantine

[Anonymous]

A 6-week-old with no immune system? Absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here - I am afraid I am developing ppd and just cannot deal with this situation for weeks or months on end. It is untenable. I also have to go back to work at some point. Not sure how I am going to do that.

Do you have a family member who can come stay for a bit to help out?

Also, don't think more than a day ahead. Try to stay focused only on today. And please make sure you've told your husband how you feel - he might be able to take an hour or so here or there if he knows how you feel.

[Anonymous]

Where is DH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if you are really stressed, can you afford to hire a sitter for he bigger kids?

How is this better?

Because it is just the sitter (one person) coming in, versus the other child being around multiple carers and other kids.

[Anonymous]

It’s not better. It’s actually worse.

[Anonymous]

Find a nanny with whom you can drop the baby off at their house. They seriously just sleep, eat and shit at that age. A daycare worker that has been laid off would be perfect for this. Then you can deal with the other two.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:HELL NO! Absolutely NOT! I can't stress my "no" enough. That newborn has ZERO immunity.

The newborn actually has some of mom's immunity so not zero. But I still wouldn't send.

Everyone has zero immunity to the novel pathogen. And with over 500,000 cases, no newborn has died. And very few have required hospitalization.

I would send but I would lie about it to friends because most people are more terrified than me. I have no contact with at risk people and have been isolated for two weeks so, even if we were asymptomatic carriers, we aren’t anymore. And it is a small daycare with fewer than 10 people at all times.

Agreed. Plus the kiddo gets some interactions with others. It's all pros and cons.

[Anonymous]

Please call your obgyn for a therapy referral. First thing in the morning.

[Anonymous]

I get the concern. Kids, especially little ones, need some sense of normalcy in their lives. If the daycare is being safe and implementing social distancing it could be okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get the concern. Kids, especially little ones, need some sense of normalcy in their lives. If the daycare is being safe and implementing social distancing it could be okay.

But she’s talking about sending the newborn, not the older kids. The newborn doesn’t need to go to daycare for consistency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get the concern. Kids, especially little ones, need some sense of normalcy in their lives. If the daycare is being safe and implementing social distancing it could be okay.

But she’s talking about sending the newborn, not the older kids. The newborn doesn’t need to go to daycare for consistency.

This. It’s unusual to send a child that young under normal circumstances. I’m concerned for this family. Please call your doc and find a way to communicate to your husband what you are experiencing. He needs to find time to support you. Within the home.

[Anonymous]

This post made me cry. I'm sorry that you are in this situation op. I have two little ones now 6 and 8 and your post brought me back to a time when I struggled physically and emotionally when they were younger while trying to juggle work and pumping milk and home life. Please don't send your newborn to daycare. Your new baby needs moms love and security and protection right now at this young age. Maybe you can have a sitter come 4 hours or so per day to give you a break?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get the concern. Kids, especially little ones, need some sense of normalcy in their lives. If the daycare is being safe and implementing social distancing it could be okay.

But she’s talking about sending the newborn, not the older kids. The newborn doesn’t need to go to daycare for consistency.

This. It’s unusual to send a child that young under normal circumstances. I’m concerned for this family. Please call your doc and find a way to communicate to your husband what you are experiencing. He needs to find time to support you. Within the home.

Agreed. Very unusually.

[Anonymous]

Call your OBGYN now. Sit down your husband and tell him what is up. If he can take a week off work, he needs to asap.

[Anonymous]

I think hiring some sort of nanny/sitter or asking a trusted friend to help out is a better option than taking your newborn to daycare. There's a risk of Covid, yes, but your mental health is an even bigger one. Talking with your doctor is the first step, but I think introducing another caretaker to your household is a smaller risk than trying to juggle your mental health and three young children.