Would I be really awful for this?

[Anonymous]

Bottom line is OP, you have to communicate with this woman and show some respect. Even if you don't like her, she clearly has helped you out.
You don't need her? TELL HER. Can't believe you would think of ghosting her. Says a lot about you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not going to need her at all now. Even when this is over.
I cannot afford to pay her. I know she will be mad and cannot deal with that.
It isn't just not needing her through the next couple months. I don't need her at all now. Period.
I don't want the drama and upset is all.

Don't you understand? You pretext the pandemic for now. Then when it's over you say your kid is mature enough to stay home by himself now.

Easy.

A 9 year old can be left home alone? Where in God's name do you live? I wouldn't leave a 9 year old alone at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not going to need her at all now. Even when this is over.
I cannot afford to pay her. I know she will be mad and cannot deal with that.
It isn't just not needing her through the next couple months. I don't need her at all now. Period.
I don't want the drama and upset is all.

Don't you understand? You pretext the pandemic for now. Then when it's over you say your kid is mature enough to stay home by himself now.

Easy.

+1. You have an easy out.

[Anonymous]

Can’t you ask your son to make her a little card and express that he misses her and attach a note from you saying “hope all is well with you. I’m unable to use childcare right now, and for the foreseeable future, obviously, due to the restrictions. We wish you the best and let’s touch base again after the dust settles.”

And then if or when she ever reaches back out to you you can say circumstances have changed. That’s not ghosting but gives some degree of closure without making any promises.

[Anonymous]

No, Don't play games.
Send her an e-mail saying you will no longer require her services as your job situation has changed. It's simple.

Don't keep her hanging like other posters have suggested. She is a human being. Treat her like one.

[Anonymous]

You don't deserve her. What an awful thing to consider doing

[Anonymous]

Just send her an email saying you don't need her now (she already knows this) and your work situation changed so you're working from home all the time now and it's unlikely you'll need her in the future, but you'll let her know if/when that changes. Then block her email address and phone number if you're afraid of the response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can’t you ask your son to make her a little card and express that he misses her and attach a note from you saying “hope all is well with you. I’m unable to use childcare right now, and for the foreseeable future, obviously, due to the restrictions. We wish you the best and let’s touch base again after the dust settles.”

And then if or when she ever reaches back out to you you can say circumstances have changed. That’s not ghosting but gives some degree of closure without making any promises.

This is certainly better than ghosting (which is stunningly immature and plain pathetic).


However how does your son feel about potentially never seeing her again?

[Anonymous]

I would not contact her now. If she contacts you, tell her about the self isolation and all. Once this thing is over and she contacts you again, tell her something else. Just delay the drama. It's not like she is passing up other opportunities because of you or anything.

[Anonymous]

You again? You’ve been quiet after your last several threads but I guess you can’t stay away. How’s your new house with the new BF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not going to need her at all now. Even when this is over.
I cannot afford to pay her. I know she will be mad and cannot deal with that.
It isn't just not needing her through the next couple months. I don't need her at all now. Period.
I don't want the drama and upset is all.

Don't you understand? You pretext the pandemic for now. Then when it's over you say your kid is mature enough to stay home by himself now.

Easy.

A 9 year old can be left home alone? Where in God's name do you live? I wouldn't leave a 9 year old alone at all.

Most states allow a 9yo (if a parent determines they are mature enough) to stay home alone for up to 1.5 hours per day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You again? You’ve been quiet after your last several threads but I guess you can’t stay away. How’s your new house with the new BF?[/quote
This the one where posters always insist that a babysitter should get a severance package?

[Anonymous]

Be professional. Send her an email and stop being such a wimp about it.