Nanny Vent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First world problems! You people are amazing. You have nothing to complain about, your lives are blessed. Rinse and repeat.

First world problems are you being stuck at home with your own children. This poor woman's story is something else entirely. 6:30-8 five days a week??? AYFKM???

Not np. Nanny signed up for this, she knows/knew what her employers are like. Now she is whining because she has to actually do everything since they are around to see it all. Please, no sympathy here. And where does she get the time to sit on DCUM if she is actually doing everything she says she is doing? Don't answer, I so do not care. Find another job. Problem solved.

Actually, that's a reading comprehension fail on your part. What nanny signed up for is taking care of kids who attend preschool 5 mornings a week. Now she is taking care of them all day.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP. Your employers are way out of line. Don’t back down.

That said, people are freaking out all over the place so try not to take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you are working more than 12 hours a day and if he doesn't like how you do it, he can do it himself. Since they are home there is no reason you need to work more than 40 hours a week. That's absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks to DCUM, I started prepping my NF for CV a month ago. I stocked up on tp and sanitizer and meds. I made sure to have all the food we could need for my nanny kids. I bought some extra gross motor toys for the backyard. I bought some indoor art supplies. I researched a homeschool curriculum and bought math games and new workbooks and journals and a reading curriculum (they are 4.5yo twins) and a butterfly kit and gardening supplies so that our science lessons can be focused around nature since we’ll be playing in the yard mostly. Normally they attend preschool 5 mornings a week and their parents have regular sitters who come every Saturday and Sunday, so I cleared my schedule so that I could cover all the childcare they usually have as well as living in if it comes to that.

I work 6:30am to 8 pm 5 days a week with no break anymore and the kids have a full day of positive and enriching activities all prepped to fill that time. I make 100% of the kids’ food and do all their laundry and make some meals for the parents as well and do all the dishes for them too now that they are home all day.

The parents work from home but they sleep in until about 7:30, then come downstairs and have breakfast then work but pop in throughout the day as they feel like it and then usually pop in to put the kids to bed around 7:00, and I go downstairs to do the dinner dishes and vacuum and prep for the next day.

The feedback I have gotten from DB this week:
Annoyance that I didn’t stock up on all the perishables he wanted (not that he asked for, just things he wanted privately in his head)
Annoyance that the kids are making messes (which I always clean up. He’s just annoyed that I am letting them make a mess to begin with now that he’s here to see it)
Annoyance that I load the dishwasher “wrong”
Interruptions during the 20-minute break I scheduled myself when both kids watch one episode of tv so that I can lay down and rest
Pushback on getting the kids to bed a little earlier since they just dropped nap and everyone is ALREADY HOME

The cherry on top is that yesterday morning as I was working with one kid on journaling about the weather. We are using “inventive spelling” and the whole point is to avoid correction or rebuke and instead just focus on letting the child listen for the phonemes that make up the word so that they can build their instinctive knowledge of phonics. The kid spelled “cloudy” “CLDE” which is totally appropriate in this context. DB came in and started to correct the spelling and I said (in a low voice with my back to the kid, and neutrally with no attitude) “Hey don’t correct his spelling.”

DB was FURIOUS that I was “undermining his parenting” and stormed off. He avoided me most of the day and then approached after my 13-hour shift to ask for an apology.

I am so done with him.

Nannies are in very high demand now as daycares and schools are closed. Are you in DC? I would poach you from this family in a second

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First world problems! You people are amazing. You have nothing to complain about, your lives are blessed. Rinse and repeat.

First world problems are you being stuck at home with your own children. This poor woman's story is something else entirely. 6:30-8 five days a week??? AYFKM???

Not np. Nanny signed up for this, she knows/knew what her employers are like. Now she is whining because she has to actually do everything since they are around to see it all. Please, no sympathy here. And where does she get the time to sit on DCUM if she is actually doing everything she says she is doing? Don't answer, I so do not care. Find another job. Problem solved.

OP posted at 5:41 am. Not exactly on the clock.

[Anonymous]

Put out your resume on nanny share sites and NextDoor - people are poaching whoever they can at the moment.

Let them know you want a 30% raise as soon as you get a new offer or you're walking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First world problems! You people are amazing. You have nothing to complain about, your lives are blessed. Rinse and repeat.

First world problems are you being stuck at home with your own children. This poor woman's story is something else entirely. 6:30-8 five days a week??? AYFKM???

Not np. Nanny signed up for this, she knows/knew what her employers are like. Now she is whining because she has to actually do everything since they are around to see it all. Please, no sympathy here. And where does she get the time to sit on DCUM if she is actually doing everything she says she is doing? Don't answer, I so do not care. Find another job. Problem solved.

Found the dad boss. OP did not sign up for this. Pp, you sound like a bitter pill

[Anonymous]

What kind of parents require 14 hours of nanny services every weekday PLUS weekend sitters? Do they have any sort of parental relationship with their kids at all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:6:30 to 8 PM with no breaks?! OP, you don't have to take this.

Seriously! Tell the parents to pick 8 hours a day for you to come. That’s it. And that is generous! No weekend work. Take care of you too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are in high demand right now. I would speak to boss and let him know what’s up and that you may be out the door.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of parents require 14 hours of nanny services every weekday PLUS weekend sitters? Do they have any sort of parental relationship with their kids at all?

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Very earthly ones, and no. My prior nanny was one of two nannies on her shift. They had different nannies for nights and weekends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of parents require 14 hours of nanny services every weekday PLUS weekend sitters? Do they have any sort of parental relationship with their kids at all?

Most parents who need those types of schedules are workaholics with demanding jobs. However, OP describes two people who are enjoying lazing around, so possibly workaholics who infrequently get to relax and are now doing so?