PLEASE stop telling me you're stupid, lazy, ugly and fat!!

[Anonymous]

I usually say I'm stupid, lazy, ugly or fat in response to posters who suggest I'm stupid, lazy, ugly or fat for doing/feeling such and such. And yes, I'm being sarcastic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't wait to see the look on their faces

So...you think you will be able to see the look on the faces of people posting on an anonymous forum?
You realize this is an utterly *stupid* statement.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP. I am stupid, lazy, fat, and ugly governess who drives a Subaru, and I just love myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't wait to see the look on their faces

So...you think you will be able to see the look on the faces of people posting on an anonymous forum?
You realize this is an utterly *stupid* statement.

I wasn't making reference to people on this, or any, online forum...HELLO. I wasn't making reference to statements of fact put out there expecting no sympathy in return. If you say it in jest, I wasn't making reference to that, either. My tongue-in-cheek post was referring to the people I don't know well, but see often. The man at the cleaners that I spend 5-10 minutes chatting with, the lady at the grocery store that I see every Wednesday afternoon around 3ish or the parents at drop off/pick up. Or even at a casual gathering where there are friends of friends.

My real point was not that I would actually be so insensitive to utter those remarks to anyone, but rather to emphasize that everyone doesn't need to know how insecure you are. I really feel that it is inappropriate to make those comments to the hi/bye set of folks in your life. To your friends who can offer love and support, sure let 'er rip. On this forum even? Okay. Someone out there will give you a much needed boost. But to people who are really not more than strangers with familiar faces...leave them alone.

You never know what events/traumas people hide behind the friendly smile they give you. And just maybe your casual display of insecurity (read: negativity) will just bring them down more. Good job "debbie downer"! Perhaps being a ray of sunshine will uplift someone or inspire someone ("why does she always seem so happy, what can I do to be that happy"). Perhaps it would uplift YOU even if your just putting on airs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave the negative energy in 2009, I don't need it!

Kind of ironic statement.[/quote]

LOL. Yes, OP wants to be negative but wants everyone else to be positive.

[Anonymous]

negative people attract other negative people.

[Anonymous]

Although I agree with the gyst of OP's statement. I once had this friend who just totally deflated the room every time she opened her mouth. If I was talking about the great guy I was dating, she was saying, "I'll never get a man." And you know what, you're probably right! You are absolutely self-absorbed to the point you can not take any pleasure in someone else's joy. And that sucks. For years I was the consoling friend, but I finally just had to cut her loose.

I think they had an SNL character like that, Debbie Downer. That one was talking about negative stuff all the time, but people who put themselves down all the time (especially in the presence of someone else's happiness) are more than depressed, they're self-centered. The fact is I am fat. But you would never hear me say it because obviously if it is a problem for me I need to do something about it. Anyway, I know it sounds insensitive, and I really do try to be sensitive to people's pain (even extended pain), but some people will just never be happy.

[Anonymous]

OP--your post was entirely meaningless. Is that how deep you can get? COuld you not find anything else of importance to post about? YES--some people put themselves down and it is uncomfortable but so what? I usually offer up something i am not too happy about physically or emotionally and the conversation moves on. Some people need positive reinforcement, we all do. It's not worth getting worked up about.
Find something else to post about. Surely you have more going on in your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP--your post was entirely meaningless. Is that how deep you can get? COuld you not find anything else of importance to post about? YES--some people put themselves down and it is uncomfortable but so what? I usually offer up something i am not too happy about physically or emotionally and the conversation moves on. Some people need positive reinforcement, we all do. It's not worth getting worked up about.
Find something else to post about. Surely you have more going on in your life.

You are guilty of making such absurd remarks and you call MY post meaningless? So I'm guessing that when you're in the middle of a conversation putting yourself down you're discussing what...how to stop human trafficking? People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

FWIW I don't get "worked up" in the presence of anyone making these foolish statements. But my post was directed at people like you. So even if only you stop "offering up" these remarks to mere strangers then my post was worth it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You never know what events/traumas people hide behind the friendly smile they give you. And just maybe your casual display of insecurity (read: negativity) will just bring them down more. Good job "debbie downer"! Perhaps being a ray of sunshine will uplift someone or inspire someone ("why does she always seem so happy, what can I do to be that happy"). Perhaps it would uplift YOU even if your just putting on airs.

Take your own advice and be that ray of sunshine for them, okay? Instead of being so negative. Maybe they are reacting to YOUR negativity. Maybe YOU are bringing THEM down.

[Anonymous]

Wow, this is the most negative post I've ever seen about being positive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP--your post was entirely meaningless. Is that how deep you can get? COuld you not find anything else of importance to post about? YES--some people put themselves down and it is uncomfortable but so what? I usually offer up something i am not too happy about physically or emotionally and the conversation moves on. Some people need positive reinforcement, we all do. It's not worth getting worked up about.
Find something else to post about. Surely you have more going on in your life.

You are guilty of making such absurd remarks and you call MY post meaningless? So I'm guessing that when you're in the middle of a conversation putting yourself down you're discussing what...how to stop human trafficking? People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

FWIW I don't get "worked up" in the presence of anyone making these foolish statements. But my post was directed at people like you. So even if only you stop "offering up" these remarks to mere strangers then my post was worth it!

NP here.

Oh, you are one of those PSA posters. It's not about you, you're just trying to help us with a public service announcement. "If I can save just one child, it's worth it!"