Pay nanny and send her home indefinitely - need advice

[Anonymous]

Look OP, you’re the one who basically said she was too stupid to understand Coronavirus. Now you’re trying to play it off that she’s just a republican? And you wonder why people are wondering about you?

I’d love to know what you’re paying this poor woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG! OP, why would you hire a nanny without either the language or intelligence to understand what is going on?!

OP heee. Because she’s a wonderful caretaker who is a kind soul who has loved our children unconditionally for 6 years. In general our differences in politics or the way we see the world don’t make a difference and in no way impact her ability to be responsible and take care of kids. However, she doesn’t have a high school degree and comes from rural America and has a different understanding of the world.

So in the SIX YEARS that you have known her and she has been so wonderful to your kids, you couldn't help her seek out and obtain a GED?

Or did you try, but she was completely incapable?

Either you, OP, are a terrible person to not help and encourage her, or you are a terrible parent for putting someone that incompetent in charge of your kids.

Op here. Ummmm we’ve offered her tons of opportunities to further her education and she’s not interested. Not sure how this is relevant to my question. The anger and close mindedness about how people think on here is insane. I can still love my nanny as a person and trust her and not agree with her life choices if they aren’t dangerous to herself, my family, or society. She’s on her way to church right now and then will eat at her buffet place as always. No news (I.e. Fox) will tell her otherwise right now.

Thank you everyone for the non snide responses. We are all in this together. Let’s practice kindness.

And again, you are a terrible parent to put someone this incompetent in charge of your children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am confused, this should not be a problem for you. Tell nanny because there is coronavirus the local, state and federal government are recommending social isolation (avoiding contact with people other than family). You will not have her come for a few weeks and she will be paid during this time.
What is so hard about telling her the truth? Geez people, use common sense.

This.

If she get's "confused and hurt" and really can't understand what is going on, I don't know how in the world you felt she was mentally capable of caring for your children.

I was wondering that also, but I think OP had hard time finding the right words to explain how the nanny would feel. She must be the sort of nanny who shows up in snowstorm pushing someone's car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“We go bye-bye. You go home. Here money. Call you soon”

OMG thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you blame it on advice you got from the pediatrician?

This is good advice, OP. Most of the other responses you are getting on here are out of line. You are not a terrible parent or person. Hope you don't internalize these nasty comments. Sheesh, people... go for a walk or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am confused, this should not be a problem for you. Tell nanny because there is coronavirus the local, state and federal government are recommending social isolation (avoiding contact with people other than family). You will not have her come for a few weeks and she will be paid during this time.
What is so hard about telling her the truth? Geez people, use common sense.

This.

If she get's "confused and hurt" and really can't understand what is going on, I don't know how in the world you felt she was mentally capable of caring for your children.

I was wondering that also, but I think OP had hard time finding the right words to explain how the nanny would feel. She must be the sort of nanny who shows up in snowstorm pushing someone's car.

It’s hard to put into words but yes, she has missed two days for illness is 6 years and actually did help our neighbor dig her stuck car out of our hill once. So yes she’s that kind of person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG! OP, why would you hire a nanny without either the language or intelligence to understand what is going on?!

OP heee. Because she’s a wonderful caretaker who is a kind soul who has loved our children unconditionally for 6 years. In general our differences in politics or the way we see the world don’t make a difference and in no way impact her ability to be responsible and take care of kids. However, she doesn’t have a high school degree and comes from rural America and has a different understanding of the world.

So in the SIX YEARS that you have known her and she has been so wonderful to your kids, you couldn't help her seek out and obtain a GED?

Or did you try, but she was completely incapable?

Either you, OP, are a terrible person to not help and encourage her, or you are a terrible parent for putting someone that incompetent in charge of your kids.

Op here. Ummmm we’ve offered her tons of opportunities to further her education and she’s not interested. Not sure how this is relevant to my question. The anger and close mindedness about how people think on here is insane. I can still love my nanny as a person and trust her and not agree with her life choices if they aren’t dangerous to herself, my family, or society. She’s on her way to church right now and then will eat at her buffet place as always. No news (I.e. Fox) will tell her otherwise right now.

Thank you everyone for the non snide responses. We are all in this together. Let’s practice kindness.

OP, I won’t even go further than first page as it looks like dcum is going crazy again. You are doing the right thing, you are a wonderful employer offering paid leave, I applaud you.

[Anonymous]

Let’s see how many days of “working” with little kids before you ask her to come back.
Please don’t be ridiculous, the social isolation is not at that level yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“We go bye-bye. You go home. Here money. Call you soon”

An actual LOL on this one.

[Anonymous]

OP, why would you pay your nanny more money not to work?

[Anonymous]

OP, just blame it on your pediatrician if you think she will be hurt.

Our nanny does know what's going on, but she thinks it's insane/ridiculous/all of the world leaders are totally overreacting (in her eyes). It can be frustrating to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look OP, you’re the one who basically said she was too stupid to understand Coronavirus. Now you’re trying to play it off that she’s just a republican? And you wonder why people are wondering about you?

Aren’t those the same thing?



OP, good for you for hiring a nanny who watches Fox. We couldn’t do that. I want my kids learning good values, not to hate people who are unlike them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am confused, this should not be a problem for you. Tell nanny because there is coronavirus the local, state and federal government are recommending social isolation (avoiding contact with people other than family). You will not have her come for a few weeks and she will be paid during this time.
What is so hard about telling her the truth? Geez people, use common sense.

This.

If she get's "confused and hurt" and really can't understand what is going on, I don't know how in the world you felt she was mentally capable of caring for your children.

This!!!

[Anonymous]

Hi OP,

I would tell her that you are worried about her health and the health of your family. Given the current recommendations, you don't want her to feel obligated to come to work and risk her safety. As such, you are paying her as normal but she is not required to come in until 2/3/4 weeks from today. Again, reiterate her pay will be same.

One other suggestion - are there any remote tasks you can give her? Like looking for kids camps, things for home, etc.?

[Anonymous]

Should we not have our nanny come? We are both going to be working home with a 2 year old and 4 year old. No way we can workout without help. -New Poster