DH wants to separate, I should see an attorney right?

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're telling the truth. No one wants a divorce because their spouse called them "bros", it doesn't make sense.

[Anonymous]

Yes, make an appointment with a lawyer. I would guess he is cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. He sounds immature (or you are unpleasant and he’s had enough, one of the two.) Either way, it sounds like he’s been done for a long time and this was the excuse he needed to end it. Time to start finalizing it.

This. On another note, you're entering perimenopause and you're trying to save a relationship with a guy who told you he wants a divorce over text? Just gather whatever's left of your dignity and get out. The level of immaturity around not being willing to have a discussion after asking for a separation is staggering. There's nothing here to save!

[Anonymous]

As the spouse on the other end of a similar but unfortunately more entangled situation— heed this advice: you have to let a person go if they need to go. Tell him you love him (if you do) but that you believe it’s best to let him go and for you to take care of yourself as well. Separate, go no contact, post on social media about what you’ve got going on in your life. Take care of you, do you. If he wants you, he will let you know. If he doesn’t want you, there is nothing else you can do other than hold your head up high. And yes of course taking care of yourself involves getting representation. I hope you two can go the mediation route (cheaper, more amicable), but he’s not seeming in an amicable enough place right now.

[Anonymous]

OP, you don't have kids and your husband doesn't want to be married anymore. Call and attorney and prepare for divorce. Don't beg, don't have sex with him. Just be done. Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Be thankful that you don't have to worry about kids being in the middle of this. It really doesn't matter who is right or wrong here. You need two people to have a relationship and your soon-to-be-ex wants out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you're telling the truth. No one wants a divorce because their spouse called them "bros", it doesn't make sense.

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

Like yesterday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, make an appointment with a lawyer. I would guess he is cheating.

Yes to both. Esp if nixing you’re off social media networks

[Anonymous]

By text? What a man. Sounds like Burger from Sex and the City.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see why you need a lawyer just yet.
If he goes thru with divorce he will contact you re: property division and then you will find a lawyer.
Sounds like he used the situation as an excuse to leave.
I know it’s hard but you will find out more soon. Try to go about as usual as much as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see why you need a lawyer just yet.
If he goes thru with divorce he will contact you re: property division and then you will find a lawyer.
Sounds like he used the situation as an excuse to leave.
I know it’s hard but you will find out more soon. Try to go about as usual as much as possible.

OP here. I don't know, it feels like I'm just leaving it in his hands, as opposed to taking control. I just contacted a lawyer about a consultation and started listing out all assets and debts, and already feel so much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you don't have kids and your husband doesn't want to be married anymore. Call and attorney and prepare for divorce. Don't beg, don't have sex with him. Just be done. Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Be thankful that you don't have to worry about kids being in the middle of this. It really doesn't matter who is right or wrong here. You need two people to have a relationship and your soon-to-be-ex wants out.

This, but he is probably cheating.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he was looking for an out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, make an appointment with a lawyer. I would guess he is cheating.

Yes to both. Esp if nixing you’re off social media networks

Indeed. Get thee to the attorney's office. Now while he's out of town.

[Anonymous]

If you dont have kids why not just use a mediator to divide assets? You dont sound upset or surprised.