Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Then I would say to him “instead of me helping you by jumping in when things are bad, let me help you by sitting down and talking about what I think works. We could develop a parenting plan together and by being consistent, the kids will react better to both of us. If I jump in to fix things they won’t respect you and I want them to respect you” And then make it happen. Make sure he has a say in it too. Write it down, revisit and revise as they get older.
This.
I'm thinking he would not be open to this, though. Not many men are open to their wives telling them how to parent better. They will think you are condescending. I've had similar issues with my DH when kids were younger. He's more receptive now, but the initial "confrontation" is still met with huffing and puffing, even when I try to speak calmly and respectfully to him.
Try to speak to him at a different time, when things aren't tense. Tell him that you are more than happy to step in, but he needs to approach things differently, otherwise, if he is not willing to try, nothing will change. Obviously, his way is not working, and if he is not willing to try to change it, then you are not going to step in.
IMO, it's because he doesn't want to parent. Let's face it.. it's hard. It requires a lot of patience, more so than most of us probably have.
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