Men is it OK for women to say I love you first?

[Anonymous]

Depends on context. But a man can’t say it first. That’s a relationship ender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on context. But a man can’t say it first. That’s a relationship ender.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on context. But a man can’t say it first. That’s a relationship ender.

Why?

That makes no sense. My DH said it first ... and here we are 20 years later.

[Anonymous]

Man here - I’ve only been in love twice and both times the woman said it first. I think men are trained to keep their mouths shut unless food and beer are nearby. It’s probably cultural but life goes on. FWIW - I say I love you to my wife of 31 years almost every day. I may be like a trained seal but I get rewarded with love in return.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here - I’ve only been in love twice and both times the woman said it first. I think men are trained to keep their mouths shut unless food and beer are nearby. It’s probably cultural but life goes on. FWIW - I say I love you to my wife of 31 years almost every day. I may be like a trained seal but I get rewarded with love in return.

I say it every day, too. Multiple times a day. Once in a while I even mean it. He's got me trained, but I get rewarded with love in return. Ewww. Just writing that made me feel icky.

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman who said it first when we started dating. We're preparing to celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary.

[Anonymous]

It totally depends on the people in the relationship. Do they feel the need to follow some unwritten script, or are they confident enough to express their real feelings to another human? And is that other human emotionally mature enough to respond in an honest and empathetic way?

[Anonymous]

Long as she doesn’t do it in the act. If we f><king and she says it I’m liable to say it back cause I’m all caught up in the throes of passion and not thinking straight. Then next thing you know she’s coming at me afterwards with that, “But you said you loved me!” crap and Oh Here We Go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on context. But a man can’t say it first. That’s a relationship ender.

Yep. Women have to bring up the are we bf/gf conversation and women have to say I love you first. If a man does it, it's seen as being too eager and not having other options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on context. But a man can’t say it first. That’s a relationship ender.

Yep. Women have to bring up the are we bf/gf conversation and women have to say I love you first. If a man does it, it's seen as being too eager and not having other options.

+1. Four women, including my wife, have said I love you first. Would never say it first because it looks needy. Let's face it, to some degree dating is a game.