What age do they start sleeping in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 3 year old has slept from 7:30pm-7:30/8am since she was 5 months old. She also still takes a nap (2-3 hours).

NP here. Some kids do that. Other kids don't. For those of us with genuinely low sleep needs kids, it gets old to hear from the high sleep needs one.
-mom of 3 thoroughly Ferberized but low sleep needs children

OP when one of my kids at that age started waking up in the 5s, I had to move her bedtime back to 8. That said, kindergarten did exhaust her enough that she was ready for about a 7:30-7:45 bedtime (depending on the day) once that started up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Newly 4 year old has always been an early riser since birth. He doesn't nap anymore, maybe twice a month when he's up early or sick. Last summer he had a 730pm bedtime. He would fall asleep within minutes and wake up anywhere from 6-730 am, very unpredictable. I then noticed he would sleep slightly longer with a 715 pm bedtime, which got us 730pm-630am sleep for about a month. Then he started taking longer to fall asleep and it turned into more like 745pm-615am for a few months. Most recently this month it's turned into 745pm-545am. This past week he's fallen asleel closer to 730 pm but it's that deteriorated further into a 5 am wakeup (napped that day) and today a 515 am wakeup.

This is getting old. I understand kids are up early but 5's is unacceptable to me. He will play in his room but makes a lot of noise singing, banging around etc and doesn't understand or ignores reminders to keep it down, use indoor voice etc. Baby sister is next door to his room, is not an early riser and she has been getting woken up a lot despite white noise going full blast.

So...when I can expect a reasonable wakeup hour again???

It will be better in two weeks. Put him to bed at 8:30 after the time change.

[Anonymous]

My 21 year old still gets up around 7am naturally. He is just a lark. When he was 4, we got him a clock and told him that he needed to stay in bed and try to sleep until 6am. He slid to 7am in middle school. I think he is the only college student who goes to bed at 10pm.

[Anonymous]

I think that expecting 12 hours of sleep at that age is a lot. My kids never really slept that much, and my 9 year old is basically 9:30-6:45 now.

[Anonymous]

My 4 year old is up at 5. She is in bed at 7:00 and asleep by 7:30. She still naps most days around an hour (at school and at home). She has to stay in her room until 6. I don't want to bump her bedtime back because that's the only real downtime I get all day but yeah - it's rough! Especially because her 1.5 year old sister sleeps until 7.

[Anonymous]

My kids didn't start sleeping in until their tween years.

[Anonymous]

My almost-5 year old has been an early riser (often before 6) and at newly 4, he was still waking up between 6-6:30 every day. Somewhere around 4.5, he all of a sudden started sleeping later. He is usually up by 7 but there are some days/weeks where it is closer to 7:30. He very rarely wakes up before 6:30, now -- knock on all the wood.

I understand the frustration and hope, here, because as someone who was forced to wake up close to 5 or 5:30 for years, I was anxiously awaiting this moment. I can't say we did anything differently - it just happened naturally. In fact, we tried all the things - adjustment to his bedtime, his routine, his sleep environment, etc - and nothing worked, and it made me more frustrated. So, as annoying as it is to say, just be consistent and give it time.

FWIW, we get him in bed by 7:45 but let him listen to podcasts until 8:30. He's usually asleep between 8:15-8:30, though.

[Anonymous]

Your child only needs like 10 hrs of sleep. When going through growth spurts or high activity times, it may be as much as 12 hours. But if you put your child to bed at 7 pm, more likely than not, their body will adjust to a 5 am wake up time. Push bedtime back to 8 for a 6 am wake up time.

[Anonymous]

My son didn't start sleeping in occasionally until he was 8. My daughter started at 1. Depends entirely on the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 3 year old has slept from 7:30pm-7:30/8am since she was 5 months old. She also still takes a nap (2-3 hours).

My kid was the same way. And then he turned 4 and it alllll changed. No nap and consistent 5-5:3am wake up, regardless of what time he falls asleep.

[Anonymous]

Another parent of a pre 6am 4 year old here. He has always been an early riser.

Weighing in to say some relief might come in the form of daylight savings in a few weeks. At least according to the clock he'll start waking at 6:30 and you can try to keep that schedule going.

[Anonymous]

A lot of this has to do with the child. I've got one that has always needed more sleep. He takes longer to fall asleep, but typically wakes up around 7:30 (9 PM bedtime). My other kid has always needed less sleep. He falls asleep almost as soon as his head hits the pillow at 8:45, but will wake up anywhere between 5:30 and 7 any given day of the week. How much he sleeps in depends partly on how scared he was in his room (plenty of light in his room at night that he can control) and how much exercise he got that day. You can try adjusting the bedtime, but some of this is just a factor of the child's personality and body needs.

[Anonymous]

Get one of those clocks that shows what time he can get up. If he wakes up before that time then that is quiet time.

https://www.amazon.com/Mirari-Wake-Alarm-Clock-Night-Light/dp/B00EAHSBV4

My ds didn't sleep in until 6th grade.

[Anonymous]

Among DD's friends, the early risers are only now starting to sleep in (age 9 or 10). Even the ones that would get up at 5:30 regardless of when they went to bed, are now starting to sleep until 7:00.

[Anonymous]

A better question is when can they take care of themselves in the morning after they wake up. My 10 yo still doesn’t sleep in, but he and my 6 yo can get up and play, read, etc on their own.
Some 4 yo kids can be trusted to play quietly while their parents sleep. By 5 yo for sure.