Anonymous wrote:OP, not this exact situation for sure but my sister was engaged to a guy who deployed a couple times with the military and had awful PTSD. He would not seek help and would drink all the time and verbally abuse her. She was desperate to leave but felt very guilty about leaving him when she knew he had this underlying disorder -- that maybe if she stayed she could help him. In fact, when she finally decided she had too much, she left him and he kept reaching out saying he would finally get help but he needed her, etc. Thankfully she completely cut him out (I understand that's not 100% applicable because you two have a kid, but).
It was far and away the smartest, healthiest thing she ever did. He sought care briefly and then 'relapsed' and ended up arrested.
All this to say she is now happily married to an amazing man with two kids and is grateful every day she didn't stay just to help him out and because of her guilt from leaving.
There's no "I" in quit.
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