Ever feel like you’ve been having bad dates with your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been married 20 years and we know each others stories by now, we already know what's happening at work, we agree politically... It can be hard to make conversation sometimes that's not about the kids. I've found it helps to have an interesting activity before dinner. We've done things outside our routine, like an intro partner yoga workshop, a murder theatre, a wine tasting, a ghost tour, etc. Just something a little fun, a little different, interesting. It's not that we don't enjoy each other's company, it's that we've already told each other everything.

I think there have actually been studies on this - the novelty factor in the activities is good for the relationship. DH and I don’t particularly care just to go out to dinner together all that much. We talk all the time, eat as a family every day. Consider going to an interesting movie that will lead to a discussion and then out for dessert, on a hike, taking a cooking class, going to an art show or fair, going axe throwing, going bowling

[Anonymous]

Our issue is that DH usually ends up on his phone. I started bringing whatever book I am reading and when he picks up his phone and I take out my book. Then we go in and out of conversation/reading and it is much more enjoyable for me compared to when I used to get pissed at him always looking at his phone.

[Anonymous]

I would just talk to him about it and ask him what’s up.