son is outgrowing nanny

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Anonymous wrote:It must be amazing to be this rich.

Agree sounds heavenly.

It does make life easier, without question.

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We moved cities when our youngest was about that age so had to say good-bye to our nanny. We hired a 1/2 time house manager/ housekeeper 5 afternoons/ evenings a week. Her primary job is to take care of the house but she picks kids up from school, takes them to activities, runs errands, can cook if needed, etc. Nannies want to take care of kids. We love that our house manager is mainly focused on the house but can help out with the kids as needed.

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Anonymous wrote:How long did you keep your nanny? DH and I work out of the home. We have had the same live out nanny for 8+yrs. Son is currently in 5th grade and feels like he's too old for a nanny

She has been wonderful for my family. She drives, shops, cleans, runs errands and does laundry. DH works 4days/week so nanny only works 4 days but gets paid for 5. There are some weeks where I work late so nanny ends up working 3 days/week. Ive always been happy to pay her full salary but wondering when I should transition to son staying home alone. I know summers will be very difficult- keeping him in camps or such.

when did you let your nanny go?

Depends on whether DS is going to continue to need a ride after school. If DS is uncomfortable with “nanny,” but you still need the role, call her the family assistant or house manager. I’d bet he’s getting teased at school due to still having a “nanny.”

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We kept our lifelong nanny until our kids (twins) were about to start 8th grade. At that point, they could take public transportation to get to activities, cook, do their own laundry and manage their homework and practice schedules without us. I’d wait until your kid can do the same, then you’re done. Work toward developing this independence in the meantime.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a house manager / nanny. Kids are tweens. I’m more for my bosses and not the kids. The kids can get along fine without me. The parents not so much.

You sounds a bit unhappy with your job.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a house manager / nanny. Kids are tweens. I’m more for my bosses and not the kids. The kids can get along fine without me. The parents not so much.

This exactly. Notice how many parents say “my nanny”?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a house manager / nanny. Kids are tweens. I’m more for my bosses and not the kids. The kids can get along fine without me. The parents not so much.

You sounds a bit unhappy with your job.

How did you read that in her reply? If anything she's thrilled that she is so needed.

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We still have our live in nanny and our 3 kids are in college.

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Anonymous wrote:We still have our live in nanny and our 3 kids are in college.

One of my friends is still with the same family, going on 26 years now. As the kids aged, she transitioned from nanny to nanny/house manager, then mom’s assistant/teens’ driver, now she manages several properties (estate manager).

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He is 8 years old. He doesn't get to call the shots.
8 is far top young to be walking home from school and looking after himself as well.
Change the title of your nanny if it makes you feel better but she sounds brilliant. You would be a fool to let her go.

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Anonymous wrote:How long did you keep your nanny? DH and I work out of the home. We have had the same live out nanny for 8+yrs. Son is currently in 5th grade and feels like he's too old for a nanny

She has been wonderful for my family. She drives, shops, cleans, runs errands and does laundry. DH works 4days/week so nanny only works 4 days but gets paid for 5. There are some weeks where I work late so nanny ends up working 3 days/week. Ive always been happy to pay her full salary but wondering when I should transition to son staying home alone. I know summers will be very difficult- keeping him in camps or such.

when did you let your nanny go?

You son is 8. It’s against the law for him to be left without supervision thus he is not too old for a nanny. And you have no clue how hard it will be on you and your spouse for the constants school holidays and sick days.

But if you can’t afford her anymore, that’s a different subject.

My very cool and athletic boys, 9 and 12, love their nanny. She is great and I pray never leaves us!

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Since when do kids decide what's good for a family?
It's your decision, OP, to keep or let this nanny go.

She's been good to your family and you still need her for driving, cooking and cleaning. So if you can still afford that, why change ?

Maybe you can give her more time off, this way she's less around, you'll all feel better. I wouldn't lower her pay though unless you're not afraid she will look for a better opportunity.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long did you keep your nanny? DH and I work out of the home. We have had the same live out nanny for 8+yrs. Son is currently in 5th grade and feels like he's too old for a nanny

She has been wonderful for my family. She drives, shops, cleans, runs errands and does laundry. DH works 4days/week so nanny only works 4 days but gets paid for 5. There are some weeks where I work late so nanny ends up working 3 days/week. Ive always been happy to pay her full salary but wondering when I should transition to son staying home alone. I know summers will be very difficult- keeping him in camps or such.

when did you let your nanny go?

You son is 8. It’s against the law for him to be left without supervision thus he is not too old for a nanny. And you have no clue how hard it will be on you and your spouse for the constants school holidays and sick days.

But if you can’t afford her anymore, that’s a different subject.

My very cool and athletic boys, 9 and 12, love their nanny. She is great and I pray never leaves us!

Depends on the state. Some states have relaxed laws, some don’t set an age and leave it up to the parent to decide.

With that said, I’d suggest keeping the nanny for at least another year or two, just change the title.

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Anonymous wrote:He is 8 years old. He doesn't get to call the shots.
8 is far top young to be walking home from school and looking after himself as well.
Change the title of your nanny if it makes you feel better but she sounds brilliant. You would be a fool to let her go.

They have had the nanny for 8 years but the son is in 5th grade so age 10 turning 11.