I don't respect DH

[Anonymous]

I felt the same way. I went to therapy and asked him to join me. Of course he said no and that he was too busy. My kids lost respect for him. I eventually got a divorce. I’m so much happier.

The funny thing is we get along great now and are good friends

[Anonymous]

Another DW here - and I really struggle with this when my husband is a total pushover with our kids too, and allows them to speak disrespectfully to him (and me) and husband argues with me to be more empathetic and permissive toward the kids. But... we've sought counseling and take parenting classes now and again, and we're in a better place at the moment. Honestly, we work better when he's more engaged in work and I'm more of the parent on tap (I work FT also, but at a less demanding job). Part of what's worked for me is talking to him about this when we're not in the heat of the moment - and... spending a little time together away from the kids - having an actual date - even just hanging with other parents from the school. Maybe even especially hanging with other parents, to have a point of reference.

Hang in there - or not - but good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he can tell you don't respect him, then so can the kids. Don't fool yourself into thinking they won't be affected in some way by this unhealthy dynamic. Go to counseling and try to get to a healthier place.

What’s to respect? He’s ignoring his spouse, his house and his kids. His priorities - work work work - are backwards.