Daycare and Naps

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Napping away from home and family is hard for most babies, especially when other babies are crying because they want to be held.

You are making a lot of assumptions. Some babies naturally are easy nappers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, totally normal for you to want your child to sleep better during the day. Is her lack of naps impacting her welfare overall? I'm a STM and also have a 7 month old currently at a center. On a good day she naps 1 hour. When she's with me on the weekends, it's closer to 3 hours during the day. I experienced the same thing with my now 3 yr old - she never napped at day care. Sometimes she would get 15 minutes.

She's fine now, and I think your child will be, too. If you don't think this is adequate, you need more individualized care, which you will only find with a nanny.

OP here. Thanks for the words of encouragement. She’s currently teething and sick so she was up ALL night last night. I just wanted her to get some rest at some point today. BTW: your daughter sounds like mine. Naps great at home, but only sleeps for about 30 minutes or less for each nap at the center.

[Anonymous]

A good rule of thumb for group care is not to expect the, to do something for your child that they couldn’t do for all of the children (unless your child has so,e unique special needs that aren’t applicable to most children). Each of the teachers can’t be expected to rock three children to drowsy but not asleep at the same time at the start of nap time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is seven months at a day care center. She started in September.

A seven month old should not need assistance getting to sleep. Have you sleep trained? If not, it's time.

OP here. Valid. We have not sleep trained. She is teething and sick, so we held off until those two situations resolve. I'm FTM, and open for advice.

If she’s sick, why is she at daycare?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Napping away from home and family is hard for most babies, especially when other babies are crying because they want to be held.

You are making a lot of assumptions. Some babies naturally are easy nappers.

I said “most”. I happen to know this for a fact because of my work.

How fast could you fall asleep in a foreign space with a bunch of strange people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, totally normal for you to want your child to sleep better during the day. Is her lack of naps impacting her welfare overall? I'm a STM and also have a 7 month old currently at a center. On a good day she naps 1 hour. When she's with me on the weekends, it's closer to 3 hours during the day. I experienced the same thing with my now 3 yr old - she never napped at day care. Sometimes she would get 15 minutes.

She's fine now, and I think your child will be, too. If you don't think this is adequate, you need more individualized care, which you will only find with a nanny.

OP here. Thanks for the words of encouragement. She’s currently teething and sick so she was up ALL night last night. I just wanted her to get some rest at some point today. BTW: your daughter sounds like mine. Naps great at home, but only sleeps for about 30 minutes or less for each nap at the center.

Why are you sending her to daycare when she's sick?

[Anonymous]

Op we had a similar problem when we started at a center and moved my son at 6 months to a small in home daycare and it was night and day change for naps. First the home daycare had a separate room for naps so it was actually quiet during naptime and since it’s mixed age there was a rhythm to the day more than the center that was just following individual infant schedules all over the place. That seemed to really help my son. Second because it was mixed ages (a few kids more toddler age) I found the caregivers had way more bandwidth to give individual attention to the infants because the toddlers were happily playing and just didn’t require such intensive 1:1. In the infant room in the center the ratios were the same but each infant had so many needs it felt like most time was spent just meeting basic needs.

I’m certainly not advocating making a change because that would be silly of me since I know so little of the situation, but wanted to share my experience in case it’s helpful as it’s still easy to switch at this age. I remember that intense stress of feeling my baby wasn’t getting sleep and it made going to work so much harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, totally normal for you to want your child to sleep better during the day. Is her lack of naps impacting her welfare overall? I'm a STM and also have a 7 month old currently at a center. On a good day she naps 1 hour. When she's with me on the weekends, it's closer to 3 hours during the day. I experienced the same thing with my now 3 yr old - she never napped at day care. Sometimes she would get 15 minutes.

She's fine now, and I think your child will be, too. If you don't think this is adequate, you need more individualized care, which you will only find with a nanny.

OP here. Thanks for the words of encouragement. She’s currently teething and sick so she was up ALL night last night. I just wanted her to get some rest at some point today. BTW: your daughter sounds like mine. Naps great at home, but only sleeps for about 30 minutes or less for each nap at the center.

Why are you sending her to daycare when she's sick?

Seriously wtf?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, totally normal for you to want your child to sleep better during the day. Is her lack of naps impacting her welfare overall? I'm a STM and also have a 7 month old currently at a center. On a good day she naps 1 hour. When she's with me on the weekends, it's closer to 3 hours during the day. I experienced the same thing with my now 3 yr old - she never napped at day care. Sometimes she would get 15 minutes.

She's fine now, and I think your child will be, too. If you don't think this is adequate, you need more individualized care, which you will only find with a nanny.

OP here. Thanks for the words of encouragement. She’s currently teething and sick so she was up ALL night last night. I just wanted her to get some rest at some point today. BTW: your daughter sounds like mine. Naps great at home, but only sleeps for about 30 minutes or less for each nap at the center.

Now I lost all sympathy for you. I bet you medicated her before drop off too. Knowingly Sending a sick baby in should be grounds for termination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is seven months at a day care center. She started in September.

A seven month old should not need assistance getting to sleep. Have you sleep trained? If not, it's time.

OP here. Valid. We have not sleep trained. She is teething and sick, so we held off until those two situations resolve. I'm FTM, and open for advice.

If she’s sick, why is she at daycare?

+1
If you did send her in it is very selfish.

[Anonymous]

Every daycare baby I have ever met is perpetually sick this time of year. That horrible deep cough and constant flow of mucus is the norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every daycare baby I have ever met is perpetually sick this time of year. That horrible deep cough and constant flow of mucus is the norm.

This! Exactly. Am I supposed to keep her home every time she has a cough or sniffle? I might as well quit my job and stay home with her. The rest of you must not have kids in daycare, and thus talking out of your arse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, totally normal for you to want your child to sleep better during the day. Is her lack of naps impacting her welfare overall? I'm a STM and also have a 7 month old currently at a center. On a good day she naps 1 hour. When she's with me on the weekends, it's closer to 3 hours during the day. I experienced the same thing with my now 3 yr old - she never napped at day care. Sometimes she would get 15 minutes.

She's fine now, and I think your child will be, too. If you don't think this is adequate, you need more individualized care, which you will only find with a nanny.

OP here. Thanks for the words of encouragement. She’s currently teething and sick so she was up ALL night last night. I just wanted her to get some rest at some point today. BTW: your daughter sounds like mine. Naps great at home, but only sleeps for about 30 minutes or less for each nap at the center.

Now I lost all sympathy for you. I bet you medicated her before drop off too. Knowingly Sending a sick baby in should be grounds for termination.

I don’t need your sympathy or snide comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op we had a similar problem when we started at a center and moved my son at 6 months to a small in home daycare and it was night and day change for naps. First the home daycare had a separate room for naps so it was actually quiet during naptime and since it’s mixed age there was a rhythm to the day more than the center that was just following individual infant schedules all over the place. That seemed to really help my son. Second because it was mixed ages (a few kids more toddler age) I found the caregivers had way more bandwidth to give individual attention to the infants because the toddlers were happily playing and just didn’t require such intensive 1:1. In the infant room in the center the ratios were the same but each infant had so many needs it felt like most time was spent just meeting basic needs.

I’m certainly not advocating making a change because that would be silly of me since I know so little of the situation, but wanted to share my experience in case it’s helpful as it’s still easy to switch at this age. I remember that intense stress of feeling my baby wasn’t getting sleep and it made going to work so much harder.

Thank you. We’ve toyed with the idea of sending her to an in home daycare. We were told by other family members that “centers” are provide better learning than in home daycares. But every child is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every daycare baby I have ever met is perpetually sick this time of year. That horrible deep cough and constant flow of mucus is the norm.

This! Exactly. Am I supposed to keep her home every time she has a cough or sniffle? I might as well quit my job and stay home with her. The rest of you must not have kids in daycare, and thus talking out of your arse.

I don't think the PP you responded to actually has a kid in daycare. Kids do get sick, of course, but it isn't constant. If it is just a cough and runny nose, you wouldn't be expected to keep her home. But, it is hard to tell from your post if she really has more.