Sadness on kid’s birthday

[Anonymous]

I try to stick to happy, because then they go to college and LEAVE.

My oldest is in high school, and I feel those headwinds already.

Enjoy every second you have with them, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF. Can we have at least ONE post on DCUM that doesn't have someone feeling the need to use the word...

PROJECTING.

I'm so sick of it and it is such a trite response.

But appropriate in this case. Can we have ONE post without someone like you chiming in? If you're sick of it stop reading posts.

Appropriate according to what standard - your own? Unless you are a licensed mental health care professional who understands the definition of the word, then I think you, too, are PROJECTING.

[Anonymous]

So you would rather be sad for a life you wish you had, rather than celebrate the life you actually have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you already have two kids and you're sad that you don't have a third? Jesus, be grateful for what you have.

Seriously. Two healthy kids!

[Anonymous]

I think by age 6 I was over it but I remember feeling moments of grief as stages slipped by during DS' early years. And feeling sad about only having had one child is something many of us feel, at least from time to time.

You should feel sadness about your reading skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF. Can we have at least ONE post on DCUM that doesn't have someone feeling the need to use the word...

PROJECTING.

I'm so sick of it and it is such a trite response.

But appropriate in this case. Can we have ONE post without someone like you chiming in? If you're sick of it stop reading posts.

Appropriate according to what standard - your own? Unless you are a licensed mental health care professional who understands the definition of the word, then I think you, too, are PROJECTING.

You seem nasty and frustrated. Nothing helpful to say.

[Anonymous]

Gosh this thread turned nasty.

OP, I totally get it. Mine are a bit younger but I find them growing up to be extremely bittersweet. Especially my youngest because it means the end of a chapter of life. I think it's very normal! I love my babies and of course I miss things about them when they were littler. It's also just an unrelenting reminder about the passage of time in general. No real advice besides the obvious (focus on the positives, be grateful they are another year older and still healthy, make plans for the future to look forward to) but I just wanted to say I totally get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you already have two kids and you're sad that you don't have a third? Jesus, be grateful for what you have.

Seriously. Two healthy kids!

Honestly, OP. Be grateful for what you have. I’d kill two have two healthy kids, but can’t. If I can focus on the joy, so can you. Try harder for your kids’ sake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you already have two kids and you're sad that you don't have a third? Jesus, be grateful for what you have.

Seriously. Two healthy kids!

Honestly, OP. Be grateful for what you have. I’d kill two have two healthy kids, but can’t. If I can focus on the joy, so can you. Try harder for your kids’ sake.

I’d be grateful to have one...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you already have two kids and you're sad that you don't have a third? Jesus, be grateful for what you have.

Plus 2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gosh this thread turned nasty.

OP, I totally get it. Mine are a bit younger but I find them growing up to be extremely bittersweet. Especially my youngest because it means the end of a chapter of life. I think it's very normal! I love my babies and of course I miss things about them when they were littler. It's also just an unrelenting reminder about the passage of time in general. No real advice besides the obvious (focus on the positives, be grateful they are another year older and still healthy, make plans for the future to look forward to) but I just wanted to say I totally get it.

+1 OP
When you love a stage of life you are in and something symbolizes that stage coming to an end, it is natural to feel sad. Dont listen to the haters on this post- theyre looking too deep into it and you are allowed to be sad your babies arent babies anymore, just as you will feel sad when your teens go to college. You are happy for them and their progression thru life, but you are sad the particular chapter is over. Im with you!

[Anonymous]

I sob like a crazy person during my kids' preschool graduations. My youngest is in her last year of preschool and I'm kinda dreading the mess I will be when we say goodbye to this preschool that we've been at for the last decade.

I don't want more kids and I love having older kids -- no yearning for a baby AT ALL but something about this rite of passage and kids getting older makes me cry.

[Anonymous]

I absolutely tell my oldest I’m sad she’s getting so big on her birthday! I always re-tell the story of the night she was born on/around her birthday and about how she was tiny and only slept in her parents’ arms and now she’s so big she barely fits in my lap and it’s sad.

She now says similar things about her brother “so sad, he’s so big, he’s not a baby anymore!” I think it’s a normal human feeling and I wouldn’t keep it from them.