I found some VERY inappropriate social media comments about my D posted by one of her classmates

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Of course tell his parents.

+1

+2 I’d absolutely want to know

[Anonymous]

I was the boy in a similar situation, many years ago. The parent handled it with me directly. I understood how I stepped over the line, and learned a good lesson. If I hadn't corrected my own behavior, the parent would have been justified contacting my parents, but it wasn't neccessary. I appreciate that they let me self correct first.

[Anonymous]

This is not bullying.

[Anonymous]

Dude, your daughter is going to be SO mad at you when she finds out about your meddling, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Of course tell his parents.

+1

+2 I’d absolutely want to know

I posted initially that of course she needs to tell the boys parents. But I do NOT support involving the school. They do not know how to handle and will
Over react and make things worse. Period.

[Anonymous]

I would want to know because what if it's not the first time? If it's the first time, fine, lesson learned. But what if it's the 2nd, 3rd, 4th or 5th time?
I think you can bring it up in an apologetic "I'm sure I'm making too big of a deal but...." kind of way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude, your daughter is going to be SO mad at you when she finds out about your meddling, OP.

LOL this is so true.

[Anonymous]

If this were my child, I would appreciate you telling me so I could address it. When my DS was in elementary school, he was mean to another child. The other child's parent never told me directly (allthough she did tell many other parents) and by the time I heard about it, too much time had passed for me to be able to effectively address the situation. I am not suggesting you are gossiping with other parents but I know it happens and unless you have reason to be concerned about the other parents' reaction, I think telling them is the right thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Same happened to our DD at that age, screenshot/photo of everything and texted to his father (high powered attorney) on his personal phone during the business day. Let's just say that kid had a lot of explaining to do and his father was mortified. Eye opener though, he had no idea his kid was "that" kid, but he knows now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude, your daughter is going to be SO mad at you when she finds out about your meddling, OP.

LOL this is so true.

Lol, so do not care if my daughter were mad about this. Not Op. I do care she did not tell me about this and more importantly, did nothing to rectify the damage to her reputation that this could cause by not being removed. It's called parenting, dude.

[Anonymous]

I would not tell the school.

I would screen shot everything for proof.

I would call the parents.

More importantly I would talk with my child before talking to anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Why exactly are you telling your daughter? What exactly do you hope to teach her? To be paranoid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude, your daughter is going to be SO mad at you when she finds out about your meddling, OP.

LOL this is so true.

Er, no.

[Anonymous]

She It’s going to be so mad at you. And, if you think she doesn’t know yet you’re crazy. Of course she knows by now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some parents are nuts and will retaliate and make excuses for their kid. I think you have already handled it so I’d stop while you are ahead. Nothing his parents can do will compare to him actually being called out by you!! Parents tell their kids “other people read what you post and will judge you for it.” You just proved that to home directly.

He is 14, he apologized to you, he took it down. Move on with your life.

Yup.