If you are infertile maybe it means you shouldn't have kids??

[Anonymous]

PP 17:59 Thanks for your insightful response, obviously you understand the thoughts that one has when struggling with infertility.

[Anonymous]

I meant PP 19:59

[Anonymous]

And if you had an illness -- even cancer -- would you just forgo treatment, even if there was a slight chance it could save your life?

My best friend and I both have struggled with infertility, and her husband had this exact same attitude. She doesn't have kids despite desperately wanting them; instead, she's trying to save her marriage. I now have a beautiful toddler thanks to IVF and an extremely supportive husband.

Change your attitude. It's up to you.

I'm very, very sorry you're going through this. It's incredibly tough. Try to find a good support group (such as RESOLVE) or counselor. Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't ever let myself think that. If I had cancer, would I not seek treatment because I should die? Infertility is a health issue, and it means nothing about your a woman's ability or expectation about being a wonderful mother. If anything, the stress of infertility (and even bringing some marriages closer together through such difficulty) will make someone a more patient parent!

I watched my SIL struggle TERRIBLY with two pregnancies (after EIGHT YEARS OF IVF) and actually began to think "she is NOT meant to have kids."

Well, then I always think of the cancer thing. If someone gets cancer and we have the medicine to fix it, why not TRY? May not work, but why not try? I think the same with fertility. All the help and money and science in the world MAY not work, but why not TRY? Not hurtin' me!