Stiffed by ILs at Xmas

[zumbamama]

OP, is it possible they honestly forgot? Maybe their memory is getting fuzzy in their old age?

[Anonymous]

My MIL has no problem stiffing people. Our wedding gift was ties for my husband....with a note on it that he got to pick one and give the rest to his brothers. But their family has always been like that. Some years, one adult sibling will get a huge family-bought gift on his birthday and the other sibling will get nothing on their birthday. It's strange, just normal for them.

But I think once kids enter the picture, adult gifts just become less important, as they probably should be. Heck, I've noticed now that I have a kid, my MIL barely notices I exist - except to demand pictures and ask when I can bring him over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it totally depends on what your ILs are like. My MIL is nuts - one year I got diamond earrings for Christmas, other years nothing. This year she told us that she was getting DH and I a certain item for Christmas but didn't. One year she even didn't get DC anything. So with unpredictability like that, I wouldn't blink an eye if something like this would happen. If your ILs are pretty predictable and get something for you each year, maybe your DH should mention it in case the gift got lost.

I agree with this. Is this part of a broader pattern of passive aggressive behavior by your ILs, or is this a one-off unusual occurrence? If the latter, I'd just try to shrug it off as strange. If the former, you already know this but you have bigger fish to fry. And definitely make sure your DH is in charge of their gift-giving, if he isn't already, and that he puts your name on the card.