Angry Wife & ADD/ADHD Husband

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Self-medicating for adhd with caffeine? What a passive way to avoid dealing with the problem.

[Anonymous]

OP, has anything worked for this so far?

[Anonymous]

Op - his pontifications do not affect your day to day life.

It's not like he has taken you to a campground, brought the dog, and the two of you now have a problem because of his incorrect information.

His wrong information is not affecting you directly. If you fear it will affect you directly, you know you need to be responsible for yourself and learn the correct info firsthand.

[Anonymous]

ok, potentially driving down a one-way street, yes

[Anonymous]

They say it to justify making their life easier and staying entitled. Like the college thing, he's trying to justify why he didn't save and prioritize more for college, etc. And doubling down on a mistake is the same thing. They just don't want to be proven wrong.

It's nothing to do with ADHD, more like arrogance. It was always there but you liked him more so looked past it.

[Anonymous]

I disagree with people saying it’s not adhd related. His behavior sounds very impulsive, which is definitely an adhd symptom. Adhd doesn’t make you say untrue things or be an a-hole, but it does cause impulsiveness. The driving error could also be adhd related, probably not being able to focus on what he was doing or overwhelmed from too many distractions (watching for pedestrians, looking out for other cars, missed the sign).

I wasn’t diagnosed with adhd until my 30s. I was convinced I was developing some sort of early onset dementia. Fortunately, it was just adhd and it was very treatable. Caffeine can help, but it wasn’t enough for me. I’m sorry he won’t take it more seriously and consider medication. I think that saved my marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Self-medicating for adhd with caffeine? What a passive way to avoid dealing with the problem.

I really disagree with this comment. Self medicating ADHD with caffeine is a well known tactic and good in some cases. When my daughter was dagnoozed at age 10, the doctor suggested no medication for her, but did suggest targeted caffeine use. Her pediatrician later backed this approach and we did it successfully for many years. When we redid the neuropsychologist with a different doctor last year, she again suggested that tactic.

Caffeine is milder stimulant than prescribed medication, but it's a similar track.