Online dating in your 40s and kids (Q for men)

[Anonymous]

I think it's great you want to Foster a teenager. Wouldn't bother me a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you plan to do it with or without a partner, say yes to question 2 so you don't waste your time on men who don't want to deal with (perhaps more) kids.

However, as someone who adopted, I'd advise you to keep your dating separate from your parenting. If you're ok with parenting alone (as it seems you are), go ahead and start the fostering process. Whoever comes along will have to accept you with a child. Don't bring someone you aren't already married/committed to into your personal decision to parent. Either you already have the kid and they're okay with that, or you prioritize getting into a committed relationship and make the decision on fostering with your partner/spouse. Fostering a child in a home where only one person wants to parent is not a good idea.

Good luck, OP.

This is outstanding advice OP. Your priority is the kid. Focus on that.

[Anonymous]

As others have said, once you are settled with an adopted or foster child you can assess everything, including the time and energy you have, and decide if you want to date. There are men who will be perfectly fine with your situation.

While this is some nebulous idea that you may or may not do (and, without trying to sound mean--can never fully know what it will be like until you dive on it), you shouldn't focus on dating.

[Anonymous]

I am a single parent to two (one adopted - not as a baby). I am sure it has narrowed my pool...... but the kind of guy I want would think this is fine (or even awesome!) and I have found plenty of good guys that have no issue with it and currently with a guy with a super large heart that is “all in” and great to me (and my kids!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a single parent to two (one adopted - not as a baby). I am sure it has narrowed my pool...... but the kind of guy I want would think this is fine (or even awesome!) and I have found plenty of good guys that have no issue with it and currently with a guy with a super large heart that is “all in” and great to me (and my kids!).

I'm PP and completely agree. I'm a single dad and prefer dating women who have children so we have a mutual understanding.

I would not want to date someone who is planning to do this down the road but hasn't gone through it yet. (Unless she is really hot*)




*joking!

[Anonymous]

Hope you have a lot of batteries.