My husband has serious hygiene issues

[Anonymous]

Daily hygiene should be in the prenup.

[Anonymous]

Maybe encourage him to take nightly, romantic hot bubble baths together.

Add some romantic music, candles + wine and it can be a win win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe encourage him to take nightly, romantic hot bubble baths together.

Add some romantic music, candles + wine and it can be a win win.

Could you imagine sitting in the muddy water he would produce?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You married him—why?

I'm in my 40s and didn't want to be an old maid.

At least you’re honest, unlike most of the people deciding themselves around here.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you not live together before you got married?

Most people don’t. It’s trashy.

Often wrong but never in doubt. In fact, 60% of those entering their first marriage in the United States are already cohabiting.
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jomf.12530

Which means 40% don’t. Anyway, cohabiting couples have a higher divorce rate.

You said "most". Which the statistics show is objectively false.

Whether cohabitation leads to divorce vs actually protects against divorce is still an open debate. https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/10/premarital-cohabitation-divorce/573817/

So you are a moron.

I said most instead of many, big deal. It certainly does increase divorce rates. Plus, it trashy. Not what I want my adult kids doing.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have sex with this man? You said you have only been married 2 years...so I am assuming yes!?!

[Anonymous]

I have sex with him as infrequently as possible. Of course he's not happy about this.

[Anonymous]

OP this isn’t going to improve with age (trust me - my dad is this guy and i don’t know how my mom deals and it’s definitely getting worse). How do you feel about him overall? Is it really better than being single? You’re not really selling it well... i completely get not wanting to be alone and worrying about that, but you’re not saying anything that makes it sound like the situation will improve.

Is there any chance he might be depressed and that’s contributing to the problem?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like chronic laziness and disrespectful. Deal breakers for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have sex with him as infrequently as possible. Of course he's not happy about this.

OP, then can't you bribe him with that? Tell him you guys will have more sex if he gets a hygiene routine down! If he is unhappy about lack of sex, it should be a good motivator!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You married him—why?

I'm in my 40s and didn't want to be an old maid.

LOL so dealing with a little feces breath is too high a price to pay to avoid that dire fate?

[Anonymous]

I'm wondering if he has tonsil stones. That would also explain the bad breath.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you not live together before you got married?

Most people don’t. It’s trashy.

Often wrong but never in doubt. In fact, 60% of those entering their first marriage in the United States are already cohabiting.
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jomf.12530

Which means 40% don’t. Anyway, cohabiting couples have a higher divorce rate.

You said "most". Which the statistics show is objectively false.

Whether cohabitation leads to divorce vs actually protects against divorce is still an open debate. https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/10/premarital-cohabitation-divorce/573817/

So you are a moron.

I said most instead of many, big deal. It certainly does increase divorce rates. Plus, it trashy. Not what I want my adult kids doing.

No, it does not certainly increase divorce rates. That stat is an old holdover from some weak-assed studies the 70s and 80s. Back then, because cohabitation was taboo, the people who did it were kind of flakey and yes, more like to divorce. It was a self selected group. In 2019, when the cohabitation rate is up 900%, and most people cohabitate, it's likely not correlated to divorce at all. If anything, the studies show it prevents against divorce.

Again, you are a moron. Read the study and get your head out of 1974.

[Anonymous]

I had a relatice with feces breath. He suffered from liver or kidney failure. I would have your husbands health checked. Change your toothpaste. When my husbands breath began to smell bad I switched from colgate to doctor bonners. I also used the trader joes. Improved things significantly. My husband had visited the dentist several times because i felt he had halitosis, the dentist said nothing was wrong. Sr bonners toothpaste worked.

[Anonymous]

We have been using Arm & Hammer Peroxicare, which works great for me. Unfortunately, it's not solving his breath issue. I will give Dr. Bronners a try, and suggest he see a doctor about this.