Do any other sahm not leave their house or..just me?

[Anonymous]

No I was the opposite.

Kid has preschool in the morning 9-12 so we went out for that, then activities in the afternoon (Music Together, Little Gym, Mommy and Me swim classes, etc.). Or just play dates at the park, trips to the library, etc.

I'd go crazy if I didn't leave the house.

[Anonymous]

That is not normal. I used to go with my kids that age to the pool, for walks, grocery shopping, to Barnes and Noble, to eat, to museums, to parks.... Do you suffer from social anxiety?

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you like going out with her? What’s at the root of this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM to a 3 year old and literally can not remember the last time I left the house with her just us during the week. we do a ton of activities during the day and crafts, projects, play time, dancing, etc but I do not like nor want to go anywhere with her. On the weekends my dh and I will take her out together to playground, activities, classes, stores, etc. I do all my shopping online and instacart my groceries. I'm a hermit but is anyone else? Is it horrible I don't do things outside of the house with my Lo?

This was me and my DC1. It was fabulous.

We had moved into a new SFH from an apartment, when DC1 was born, and so only had a few rooms furnished, so we made our house very kids friendly. We hosted playdates at our house with a couple of kids in the neighborhood who were the same age. We were either in our driveway drawing with sidewalk chalks, blowing bubbles, running around the sprinklers etc, or we were in our backyard which had an amazing playset with swings, slides, playhouse, sandbox, etc.

Everyone congregated at our house as we had converted our formal living & dining room, into a large play area. It was set up very much like a play-school/montessori classroom with designated areas for activities and also to read and nap. There was enough space in huge basement for kids to ride tricycles around. In the evenings, we were outside in our cul-de-sac, with the kids on their tricycles. We have family nearby, so we were visiting each other too.

I do not know why I did not want to go outside, but we had two other kids in the neighborhood who she played with and their moms were all SAH, and the days were full.

[Anonymous]

My 3 yo would drive me literally insane if we never left the house. I think I leave the house more fornmy own sanity than for any benefit of his.

[Anonymous]

Your kid must be super easy.

[Anonymous]

No. My kid hated crafts and loved to be put and about. I did avoid restaurants and shopping for a few years though. I didn’t like doing that with him. But we did do a ton of kid-centric things like the pool, playground, play dates, library.

[Anonymous]

Just like most other posters I also prefer to leave the house. My oldest likes staying at home though so I would plan one or two days at home and the rest going places. Especially at three years old. It doesn’t have to be someplace special but the library (no weekly library visits for you??), playground, nature walk, one special trip a week like the Children’s Museum or zoo, etc...

[Anonymous]

I feel like a child who is used to being indoors all day with only her mom might have a terrible time adjusting to Kindergarten, esp. since it's full day K around here.

[Anonymous]

OP, your kid is super easy and likes to do the stuff that you do at home. Obviously, she is not bored with you.

Trust me, if the kid was antsy at home, you would have no option but to take her out.

[Anonymous]

This is why I'm not a SAHM. I knew my limitations and that I wouldn't leave the house either. This isn't healthy for your child.

At the least there are free library classes like music time and story time every day of the week. Why not meet other moms at the playground for play and a sandwich?

[Anonymous]

I'm a WOHM and on the days when I have the kids on the weekends just to myself (the few times per year my spouse goes out of town), I love staying home with them. Sometimes we don't leave

But, I really can't imagine that being my every day life. Momma likes seeing the world too.

[Anonymous]

You probably got into this habit when she was a baby. Time to break free. Also preschool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like a child who is used to being indoors all day with only her mom might have a terrible time adjusting to Kindergarten, esp. since it's full day K around here.

That was not my experience with my kid. By 5 years of age, my kid was developmentally ready to be with other kids. At 3 years, she was happier at home and playing with the neighbor's kid of her own age.

Really depends on the kid and the home environment and other socialization.

[Anonymous]

If both of you are happy, I do not see a problem. This phase will not last long.