Lingerie

[Lonely_Sojourner]

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...

OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.

Really? Currently widowed (47 y/o); however, I was married for 17 years and bought my wife several sets. She certainly seemed to appreciate her husband doting on her NTL, I'm sure she was in the minority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...

OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.

Why? Men are the ones who buy that crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...

OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.

Why? Men are the ones who buy that crap.

Journelle and Intimmissi aren't "crap" lingerie. They're mostly wearable bras and panties - not sexy time lingerie. I buy most of my everyday underwear at Journelle. Just because it looks sexy doesn't mean it's not useful. You must be a real peach of a wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Expect? No. But I'd be very pleasantly surprised. And honestly, it doesn't really take much. A little lace. Thigh highs, especially, are much appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...

OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.

Why? Men are the ones who buy that crap.

Journelle and Intimmissi aren't "crap" lingerie. They're mostly wearable bras and panties - not sexy time lingerie. I buy most of my everyday underwear at Journelle. Just because it looks sexy doesn't mean it's not useful. You must be a real peach of a wife.

+1. Fruit of the Loom and Hanes all the way for you, PP? Branch out. Your husband will thank you for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...

OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.

Why? Men are the ones who buy that crap.

Journelle and Intimmissi aren't "crap" lingerie. They're mostly wearable bras and panties - not sexy time lingerie. I buy most of my everyday underwear at Journelle. Just because it looks sexy doesn't mean it's not useful. You must be a real peach of a wife.

+1. Fruit of the Loom and Hanes all the way for you, PP? Branch out. Your husband will thank you for it.

NP. I promise you, he won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...

OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.

Why? Men are the ones who buy that crap.

And it's always a mistake.

If she doesn't desire you, buying her sexy lingerie isn't going to change that. You might even get an eye-rolling "oh God not lingerie" reaction (which really means, "oh God, he wants to have sex and I'm sooooo over that").

Either she buys it because she wants to be sexy for you, or fuggedaboudit.

[Anonymous]

Man here, soon to be single because I am leaving a low sex marriage. Agree with the PP that lingerie is only welcome if your wife or girlfriend wants to have sex.

I will be thrilled to just be with a woman with desire. The rest is details but I do love lingerie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

I find it hard to believe anyone over the age of 22 needs to ask this question. You don't need to be wearing crotchless panties and thigh highs, but if you think you might be getting undressed later, for god's sake put some thought into it. Journelle for instance just has lots of nice everyday underwear. I have this in a few colors and would wear something like this on an every day basis (going to the store, school etc). I know not everyone can get away with something like this every day, but it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know you should wear something like this on a date.

https://www.journelle.com/products/journelle-isabel-balconette-bra-104821?color=1009

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...

OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.

Why? Men are the ones who buy that crap.

Journelle and Intimmissi aren't "crap" lingerie. They're mostly wearable bras and panties - not sexy time lingerie. I buy most of my everyday underwear at Journelle. Just because it looks sexy doesn't mean it's not useful. You must be a real peach of a wife.

Agree. OP, buy matching sets in beautiful materials (lace, silk, satin), that are comfortable and flattering on you. Something you feel beautiful in but that is practical enough to wear under your clothes on a regular basis. Unlined can be super sexy and flattering and is actually way more comfortable. Wear this kind of lingerie on dates and as often as possible. You will feel more beautiful and put together and it will show in your confidence. Man or no man, you will appreciate it.

Whatever you do, do not buy anything in nude microfiber material with foam cups. Completely ugly and unsexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Why? Men are the ones who buy that crap.

And it's always a mistake.

If she doesn't desire you, buying her sexy lingerie isn't going to change that. You might even get an eye-rolling "oh God not lingerie" reaction (which really means, "oh God, he wants to have sex and I'm sooooo over that").

Either she buys it because she wants to be sexy for you, or fuggedaboudit.

Yup. It's like buying yourself a present for her to give to you.

[Lonely_Sojourner]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

I find it hard to believe anyone over the age of 22 needs to ask this question. You don't need to be wearing crotchless panties and thigh highs, but if you think you might be getting undressed later, for god's sake put some thought into it. Journelle for instance just has lots of nice everyday underwear. I have this in a few colors and would wear something like this on an every day basis (going to the store, school etc). I know not everyone can get away with something like this every day, but it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know you should wear something like this on a date.

https://www.journelle.com/products/journelle-isabel-balconette-bra-104821?color=1009

That works just fine for me... Classy, not over the top...

[Anonymous]

I have a few very nice nightgowns that are a clear signal to my husband that sex is on the menu. My regular underwear is purely for comfort as I undress myself!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...

OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.

I agree. That can’t be a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?

Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...

OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.

I agree. That can’t be a man.

Different male here, and I know plenty of brands far less main stream than the ones listed above. We regularly invest in nice higher quality pieces. Sometimes my wife buys them, sometimes I do. New house has a smaller walk in just behind DWs walk in just for lingerie. What is wrong with man knowing what his wife likes?