Small vent, why do people insist on stupid things

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks that gives us something to think about!

Thanks I might try that next time!

Thanks I'll consider it when I have some time!

Thanks I will take a look and research when I can!



One of these will most likely be appropriate for 99% of what she "recommends".

+1. People who say ignore don't quite get how persistent they are. I Respond kindly like above, then I move on to a repeat of "I know you think we should do XYZ, and you know we dont want to. I will let you know if I change my mind." Or " I know how you feel, please stop asking me about it. "

[Anonymous]

Respond with "oh sounds good". Then change the subject.

Don't argue with her.

[Anonymous]

"Oh sounds like a good idea. I will try it next time."

OP, I cannot understand why you have to crowd-source this? Do you have no experience with dealing with your own parents, boss, coworkers, family, friends, neighbors? This is a normal human response that is polite and friendly. Why do you have to be so pissed about it? Why do you insist on stupid things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Burst into a spontaneous rendition of "You say potato I say potahto".

That's amazing. I like you, PP.

[Anonymous]

She may be thinking, " who could be so stupid as to purchase a blender that cannot go in a dishwasher"!? That's what I'm thinking.

[Anonymous]

They are control freaks or have more anxiety about little things.

It is frustrating and probably won't be solved OP. They are persistent and will go on and on until they get their way. Of they don't get their way, they will continue to go on and on.

You could repeat yourself a couple of times about the blender and when she asks a third time, tell her in a sympathetic way that you are getting worried about her. It's the third time you've responded and she doesn't seem to be able to remember. Maybe you or dh should take time off and go with her to the doctor?

Only thing that worked with my mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Older people sometimes get stuck on things.

Unlike younger people who don't think older people have valid input? Hmmm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older people sometimes get stuck on things.

Unlike younger people who don't think older people have valid input? Hmmm.

PS. I'm not "older".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"That sounds like a good idea"

For my Mom I have to say "Ok I'll do it your way next time". Then not do it. "But you said you would do it my way next time" "Oh I'm sorry I forgot"
My Mom just wants to hear that she is correct and the best way to do it is her way.

We do get into "Why do I have to keep telling you do it X way?" Then I say, 'After all this time, why do you feel the need to tell me how to do it and not accept that I'm not going to change."

This is my mom too. I don’t get why she cares if something isn’t done the exact way she would do it. Doesn’t make sense to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older people sometimes get stuck on things.

Unlike younger people who don't think older people have valid input? Hmmm.

So it’s a sad dance where the older person repeats the same inane thing over and over, and the younger person didn’t want their advice in the first place and is ready to pull their hair out by the third time. Sounds like me and my MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Smile. "Hmm, that sounds interesting." Move on.

+1

I agree with other previous posters she's just trying to be helpful - you don't have to argue with her.

+2 If you just smile and move on you'll be much happier OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Oh sounds like a good idea. I will try it next time."

OP, I cannot understand why you have to crowd-source this? Do you have no experience with dealing with your own parents, boss, coworkers, family, friends, neighbors? This is a normal human response that is polite and friendly. Why do you have to be so pissed about it? Why do you insist on stupid things?

Awesome response and spot on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oh sounds like a good idea. I will try it next time."

OP, I cannot understand why you have to crowd-source this? Do you have no experience with dealing with your own parents, boss, coworkers, family, friends, neighbors? This is a normal human response that is polite and friendly. Why do you have to be so pissed about it? Why do you insist on stupid things?

Awesome response and spot on.

This will not shut it down. Or even lessen the pestering.

I always think it's weird when someone posts a "simple" response as though this will end the conversation. As though the other person will not respond. In my family, if I say "sounds like a good idea, I will try it next time," my mom will RESPOND with Further pestering.

You have to be direct and ask them politely to stop it.

[Anonymous]

My mother is like this. I usually find it's the people who have nothing better to do who are annoying like this.