Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
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Anonymous
No, it is not merely a birthday party for a 13 yr old. |
Anonymous
+1 And, I don’t even think this means you have to give a large gift. $36 or $18 or even nothing is totally fine with us. But calling one of the major Jewish religious life cycle events a kid’s birthday party is pretty offensive. |
Anonymous
| DS attended one solo recently and we gave $108. |
Anonymous
It is and to act as if someone should pay more because it is something more is crazy. Nobody is running a shul at 15! Do not feel obligated to pay for the party. |
Anonymous
I’m guessing you aren’t Jewish. For Jewish families, a bar or bat mitzvah means that their child can now be part of a minyan which is how Jews can hold a service and be called to the Torah to have an aliyah, a special blessing over the Torah. It means a lot and for many families to see their kids move into this part of the cycle of Jewish life is why so many celebrate. |
Anonymous
| The Mitzvah kids absolutely run the service at every one I've been to (between family + 3 kids, more than 50). |
Anonymous
Don’t attend if this is your attitude! Rude. |
Anonymous
| Op here. Only my son is attending. Thanks |
Anonymous
| $36 for most classmates. DD went to no fewer than 20 in 7th grade. Maybe if she went to fewer we would have spend more per gift. |