If you’re a SAHM, do you pull your kid out of preschool for outings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

[Anonymous]

No. Preschool is three mornings a week. I do other outings I think she would like on the other two days. Plus weekends are filled with fun stuff with siblings.

I need those few hours a week she is at preschool to clean house, run errands, catch up on projects and get a workout in a workout.

[Anonymous]

My kids went to morning preschool 2 or 3 times a week. We often did fun things after they got out of school - playgrouds, nature centers, etc. But actual day trips (like to the zoo) were done on days that they did not have school.

Preschoolers thrive on routine and it is better for their adjustment if they aren't missing random days of school.

[Anonymous]

My DD goes to TTh preschool, mornings only. Before she started I thought it would be no big deal to miss school for xyz, but now that she is in it the thought of missing preschool makes me sad, she really loves it, and it's only 6 hrs total a week!

You have other options:
1.go on the weekend, surely you can find a time your kids don't have activities.
2. Go after school, maybe your kid will take a short nap in car instead?
3. Friend pulls out her kids, since they go 3 days a week.

[Anonymous]

Preschool no. Elem school yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

OMG this kid is going to end up such a nightmare child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

OMG this kid is going to end up such a nightmare child.

I know of literally NO ONE who has done it this way. I'm really surprised that the school allows such a disruptive practice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

OMG this kid is going to end up such a nightmare child.

I know of literally NO ONE who has done it this way. I'm really surprised that the school allows such a disruptive practice.

And yet, I did this and it worked out fantastic. My kid is amazing, socially well adjusted and a high achiever academically and he is in HS now.

Is it entitlement? Not really. Entitlement is when you want to get something of value for free, just because you exist. AND since none of you paid for this for my child, I do not understand this hand wringing by you all. If my DH had objected, it would make sense, since he was earning the money. However, it was him who steered me towards this solution (now I know why he is a thought leader).

I paid a lot for the benefit of having well trained and educated adults in charge of the classroom where my kid was playing, socializing and learning for the few hours. And I wanted a rich learning environment and a diverse group of playmates for him for a few hours. Since I was home, there was no reason why he could not avail of this opportunity, when he wanted to. Plus, he was only 3 at that time. It was supposed to be an enjoyable experience for him. Not a full time daycare, not a drudgery, not work.

Did the teachers mind? Not really. It was having one less charge in the classroom at times and they were fine with it. The classroom dynamics was pretty great and all kids played well together and no one was disruptive. Did the administration mind? No. They had spots available and having a full paying child for limited use of the Montessori school was very acceptable to them. + I was a parent who occasionally provide enrichment activity for the entire school.

The rest of the classmates? A fairly good group of parents and kids are still friends and associate with each other because our kids have been on similar academic paths and programs.

And yes, he and I really enjoyed those years. It was fantastic to be at home and do all of this fun stuff with him and still carve out some "me time" for me knowing that he was in a secure place with educated caregivers who were being paid more than minimum wages.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

OMG this kid is going to end up such a nightmare child.

I know of literally NO ONE who has done it this way. I'm really surprised that the school allows such a disruptive practice.

And yet, I did this and it worked out fantastic. My kid is amazing, socially well adjusted and a high achiever academically and he is in HS now.

Is it entitlement? Not really. Entitlement is when you want to get something of value for free, just because you exist. AND since none of you paid for this for my child, I do not understand this hand wringing by you all. If my DH had objected, it would make sense, since he was earning the money. However, it was him who steered me towards this solution (now I know why he is a thought leader).

I paid a lot for the benefit of having well trained and educated adults in charge of the classroom where my kid was playing, socializing and learning for the few hours. And I wanted a rich learning environment and a diverse group of playmates for him for a few hours. Since I was home, there was no reason why he could not avail of this opportunity, when he wanted to. Plus, he was only 3 at that time. It was supposed to be an enjoyable experience for him. Not a full time daycare, not a drudgery, not work.

Did the teachers mind? Not really. It was having one less charge in the classroom at times and they were fine with it. The classroom dynamics was pretty great and all kids played well together and no one was disruptive. Did the administration mind? No. They had spots available and having a full paying child for limited use of the Montessori school was very acceptable to them. + I was a parent who occasionally provide enrichment activity for the entire school.

The rest of the classmates? A fairly good group of parents and kids are still friends and associate with each other because our kids have been on similar academic paths and programs.

And yes, he and I really enjoyed those years. It was fantastic to be at home and do all of this fun stuff with him and still carve out some "me time" for me knowing that he was in a secure place with educated caregivers who were being paid more than minimum wages.

OMG, thanks for the gem, PP. I am now going to start praising my DH as a "thought leader".

"My Larlo picks off half the frozen pepperonis before he bakes his pizza. Less greasy." #thoughtleader

"My Larlo protects our marriage by wear a fanny pack from the 1990s when he travels, thus warding away potential homewrecking predators." #thoughtleader

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

OMG this kid is going to end up such a nightmare child.

I know of literally NO ONE who has done it this way. I'm really surprised that the school allows such a disruptive practice.

I agree. I hope that PP was joking. As a former teacher and now mom, just reading that whole description makes me cringe. And as a Montessori kid and follower myself, I have to put a plug in for the Montessori method. It’s not Montessori’s fault here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

Why? Honestly, what is the problem with this? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

Why? Honestly, what is the problem with this? Serious question.

I am the above poster. I actually know several people, myself included, who have paid for a full-day spot for flexibility, but don’t utilize the entire block of time. It just adds to the flexibility. Not sure how this is entitled or disruptive for the teachers or class if communication is open and advance notice is given of longer days?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

Why? Honestly, what is the problem with this? Serious question.

I am the above poster. I actually know several people, myself included, who have paid for a full-day spot for flexibility, but don’t utilize the entire block of time. It just adds to the flexibility. Not sure how this is entitled or disruptive for the teachers or class if communication is open and advance notice is given of longer days?

Did you read the PP’s description? She said no playgroup or other activity measured up to her standards, so she enrolled her child in a full montessori program to basically be a 2 hour playgroup every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

Why? Honestly, what is the problem with this? Serious question.

I think it’s one thing if the PP put her child in the program only for the morning and picked up for lunch/nap/afternoon with her child, but she describes it as her child waking up and eating in a “leisurely fashion” and basically she and her child doing whatever they wanted in terms of the daycare, showing up whenever and leaving whenever. That’s not entitled? My child’s providers specially sent home a letter asking us to please be on time in the mornings so as not to disrupt the classroom dynamic and routines.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM and put my 3 year old in a full day Montessori. He only went there for 3-4 hours every day. I liked the school, teachers and the cohort a lot, but I wanted my DC to use it as a playgroup primarily. We were unable to find a high quality playgroup that we liked so we decided on the Montessori. To secure our spot, we paid the full price. The school and teachers were pretty accommodating. My kid went there after he woke up in a leisurely fashion, had a nice breakfast at home and then he went to play and learn with his friends. I had no problems in pulling him out for fun outings, or if he did not want to go for some reason or some days when he or I just wanted to hang out at home. I also let him stay longer if there was something fun happening at school. In the years he was there, I helped to organize a lot of fun events in his school and classroom.

This is the epitome of entitlement.

Why? Honestly, what is the problem with this? Serious question.

I am the above poster. I actually know several people, myself included, who have paid for a full-day spot for flexibility, but don’t utilize the entire block of time. It just adds to the flexibility. Not sure how this is entitled or disruptive for the teachers or class if communication is open and advance notice is given of longer days?

Did you read the PP’s description? She said no playgroup or other activity measured up to her standards, so she enrolled her child in a full montessori program to basically be a 2 hour playgroup every day.

Sure I read it, and she said 3 to 4 hours, not two. Maybe there was something about OP’s tone that didn’t land with some folks here, but again: What’s wrong with NOT keeping your kid in a center for the entire day if you want flexibility? And what’s wrong with wanting a play-based experience for a three-year-old? Enlighten me.