Friend is weirdly competitive about our kids

[Anonymous]

She sounds weird and braggy but not that she is competitive with your kids.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it has anything to do with your kids, aside from that they are far enough apart in age that she thinks it’s clear it’s not a competition. I wouldn’t do it but she probably thinks you love her kids and would want to fawn over them too so she tags you so you don’t miss posts. Just ignore it if you don’t like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Facebook is a terrible waste of your time and attention.

Facebook is just fine, don't get so caught up in wanting to feel superior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does her child have grandparents? Sometimes if there is no grand parents or aunt or uncle, proud parents will share that kind of stuff with friends

+1. My bet is she doesn't have anyone else to share these things with and sees you as someone who will appreciate it. I'd try to give her some grace and understanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does her child have grandparents? Sometimes if there is no grand parents or aunt or uncle, proud parents will share that kind of stuff with friends

+1. My bet is she doesn't have anyone else to share these things with and sees you as someone who will appreciate it. I'd try to give her some grace and understanding.

+1000

She’s just proud and sharing with people she thinks will share in her pride. She isn’t the one comparing, op. That’s you.

[Anonymous]

I can't stand it when people post anyone other than the people who are actually mentioned or pictured in the actual post. If someone did that to me, I'd remove their ability to tag me, but I only use Facebook to such a small extent so this would annoy me a lot. OP, if it annoys you, don't let her tag you and then go on your way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does her child have grandparents? Sometimes if there is no grand parents or aunt or uncle, proud parents will share that kind of stuff with friends

+1. My bet is she doesn't have anyone else to share these things with and sees you as someone who will appreciate it. I'd try to give her some grace and understanding.

+1000

She’s just proud and sharing with people she thinks will share in her pride. She isn’t the one comparing, op. That’s you.

Ditto. She thinks you love her kids and will appreciate hearing how well they are doing.

[Anonymous]

Just like her posts and ignore the rest if you value the friendship.

[Anonymous]

OP, just copy and paste one of these and don't think another thing about it. She clearly needs someone to share her excitement with and thinks of you as a good friend.

"Oh man, look at him!"
"Love that little guy!"
"He's the best!"
"Go Larlo go!"

Takes two seconds and you're doing her a kindness, even if you don't really truly care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just like her posts and ignore the rest if you value the friendship.

No, OP. You don't have to validate someone by liking their Facebook posts. People who need validation in that way need more help than a like will provide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does her child have grandparents? Sometimes if there is no grand parents or aunt or uncle, proud parents will share that kind of stuff with friends

+1. My bet is she doesn't have anyone else to share these things with and sees you as someone who will appreciate it. I'd try to give her some grace and understanding.

+1000

She’s just proud and sharing with people she thinks will share in her pride. She isn’t the one comparing, op. That’s you.

+1. Not how I do things, but not competitive if you have kids that are completely different ages. I bragged to a few friends when my DD started getting the hang of reading because I was excited about it (she was not super early doing it or anything), but obviously not to friends with non-reading similarly-aged children. Your friend probably thinks of you as a safe space for this kind of minor brag because of course your 4 year old already does whatever and of course your 1 year old doesn't; no competition at all.

[Anonymous]

Just don’t let her tag you. I don’t think it is that weird to be proud and post but weird to tag you. I’m not a big Facebook person though and no one would tag me. Once a year or so someone tags me for an event I may be interested in.

My oldest was a late reader. It was painful for me to hear about others with early readers or comments on what books their children loved to read. Doubt anyone was trying to hurt my feelings.

Now I have 3 kids and the oldest who struggled to read is now an avid reader. He is thriving in school. My youngest is super fast in everything she does. My good friend just learned her same aged daughter is delayed and may have learning disabilities. I hope my post of my daughter talking doesn’t hurt my friends feelings.

[Anonymous]

Change your tagging options so you have to approve it. Or untag yourself and tell her you’re cleaning up your FB page so posts about other people don’t appear on your page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Facebook is a terrible waste of your time and attention.

I get much more enjoyment from Facebook than DCUM.

Then why are you here?

[Anonymous]

Is she selling something in an MLM? I see that a lot with those types.