Tired of adoptive mom's financial incest
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Anonymous
Didn't you read the OP? This has been going on for a long time. |
Anonymous
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Yes, as if there is only one immigrant adoptee in this country who has a crazy mom. |
Anonymous
| You constantly post complaining. Stop sending money and cut off ties. You are clearly a scammer. |
Anonymous
| Take the money and spend it on therapy for yourself. |
Anonymous
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OP, stop the drama. Have the drama stop with you.
(A few sentences would been enough. If you don't know this already ..you tend towards drama like your mother) |
Anonymous
DCUM tends to attract nasty be-yatches like yourself PP. I feel bad for the OP. My background is Filipino and I also witness the same dynamics in my community. The problem is that one cannot not send money and expect the parent to respect that. If that's how your parent was raised and how they choose to continue to behave, you can expect a ton of guilt-tripping. |
Anonymous
Scamming who? You? |
Anonymous
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Tell her you don't have the funds and stop giving her money.
You have been raised to feel guilty. Just say no, your mom will find a way to deal with her decisions. This isn't your problem and your life will be affected by her constant demands. |
Anonymous
It's only a hundred bucks. If OP can live in the US, she can definitely afford it. The question is, does the mother deserve the help? I say no because their relationship just appears one-sided. Unless the mom can leave a 1-million-dollar house like in the other thread, why even bother with a destitute and manipulative senior? |
Anonymous
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OP, you sound awful. Your mother worked in manual labor until she couldn't function anymore, physically and mentally, and you feel bad about giving her the occasional $20 or $50? That is just shockingly callous. Cut off your mom? I would not cut off a beggar on the street who had worked their entire life for a meager living and now could no longer physically work.
Awful. You sound just awful OP. |
Anonymous
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SIl did this for many years. She was a single mom who CHOSE to stay home and be a welfare queen. :0 After multiple askings for a few hundred dollars for new tires, swim class for her daughter, new school clothes, window air conditioner etc... my DH just told her that we had a financial set back and were scraping by just to pay our bills.... but he would get a part-time job in the evening which took his time away from HIS finally and would send her his paycheck.
She would ask how the job search was going and he would say... his still looking - no job yet. Finally she stopped asking. lol! |
Anonymous
Screw you PP. The mom chose to adopt OP, not the other way around. It's possible that given their culture that the mom probably adopted as an 'insurance' for her old age instead of wanting to parent a child out of goodwill. You wouldn't cut off a beggar? Unless you're actually supporting some degenerates out of your own stupified martyrdom, get off your f***ing high horse. |
Anonymous
Why don't you donate then? |
Anonymous
| Make it clear x will be your last payment no matter what and stick to the boundary. Get a therapist to help you stay strong when she manipulates. |
Anonymous
Yes she's got another thread going right now about cutting off her mom. I believe she's Indian. |