Your experience with low betas

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just miscarried at 7 weeks with an initial beta of 31 at 14dpo which then quadrupled two days later and continued rising from there. I wish it had just been a chemical, or better yet, a BFN. I am in a Facebook group where several women have had success after similar first betas, but unfortunately I wasn't one of them, and now I think if I ever get a low beta again I will 100% expect the worst. I'm sorry OP. As others have said, it's possible everything will work out, but I would steel yourself.

this is terrifying. how did you get through each day wondering if it would continue or not?

not the PP who you’re asking but I think with all things fertility you power through and move on because that’s all you can do. Weird question.

+1. I've had two MCs like this. You get used to it and don't let yourself get excited. Depressing, but better than being devastated over and over again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just miscarried at 7 weeks with an initial beta of 31 at 14dpo which then quadrupled two days later and continued rising from there. I wish it had just been a chemical, or better yet, a BFN. I am in a Facebook group where several women have had success after similar first betas, but unfortunately I wasn't one of them, and now I think if I ever get a low beta again I will 100% expect the worst. I'm sorry OP. As others have said, it's possible everything will work out, but I would steel yourself.

this is terrifying. how did you get through each day wondering if it would continue or not?

not the PP who you’re asking but I think with all things fertility you power through and move on because that’s all you can do. Weird question.

why is this a weird question? im just asking if anyone had coping mechanisms for managing the wait

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just miscarried at 7 weeks with an initial beta of 31 at 14dpo which then quadrupled two days later and continued rising from there. I wish it had just been a chemical, or better yet, a BFN. I am in a Facebook group where several women have had success after similar first betas, but unfortunately I wasn't one of them, and now I think if I ever get a low beta again I will 100% expect the worst. I'm sorry OP. As others have said, it's possible everything will work out, but I would steel yourself.

this is terrifying. how did you get through each day wondering if it would continue or not?

not the PP who you’re asking but I think with all things fertility you power through and move on because that’s all you can do. Weird question.

why is this a weird question? im just asking if anyone had coping mechanisms for managing the wait

DP. I don't think it's weird weird, but it comes off as from someone who hasn't been in the infertility trenches for very long. Which is not a bad thing! I hope you have a quick and relatively easy fertility journey and never get so used to failure and the endless waiting that you become jaded like us! (Sorry to the rest of "us", you know you are.) There are no coping mechanisms, it's just hard, like all things infertility. You guard your emotions and try your best to move on when you get (more) disappointing news. Plus a good antidepressant, wine and/or chocolate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just miscarried at 7 weeks with an initial beta of 31 at 14dpo which then quadrupled two days later and continued rising from there. I wish it had just been a chemical, or better yet, a BFN. I am in a Facebook group where several women have had success after similar first betas, but unfortunately I wasn't one of them, and now I think if I ever get a low beta again I will 100% expect the worst. I'm sorry OP. As others have said, it's possible everything will work out, but I would steel yourself.

this is terrifying. how did you get through each day wondering if it would continue or not?

I'm the original PP. As the saying goes, you just hope for the best and expect the worst. After the initial low beta I 100% expected a chemical and was planning the next FET, but then it looked like things were moving in the right direction. Every positive blood result was a small victory in and of itself. I still never calculated the due date or planned for anything beyond the next blood draw. I have experienced much, much more devastating losses and with my last successful pregnancy it wasn't until I held my child that I exhaled. Not even my coworkers (I work remotely) knew I was pregnant until I was in the hospital delivering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just miscarried at 7 weeks with an initial beta of 31 at 14dpo which then quadrupled two days later and continued rising from there. I wish it had just been a chemical, or better yet, a BFN. I am in a Facebook group where several women have had success after similar first betas, but unfortunately I wasn't one of them, and now I think if I ever get a low beta again I will 100% expect the worst. I'm sorry OP. As others have said, it's possible everything will work out, but I would steel yourself.

this is terrifying. how did you get through each day wondering if it would continue or not?

I'm the original PP. As the saying goes, you just hope for the best and expect the worst. After the initial low beta I 100% expected a chemical and was planning the next FET, but then it looked like things were moving in the right direction. Every positive blood result was a small victory in and of itself. I still never calculated the due date or planned for anything beyond the next blood draw. I have experienced much, much more devastating losses and with my last successful pregnancy it wasn't until I held my child that I exhaled. Not even my coworkers (I work remotely) knew I was pregnant until I was in the hospital delivering.

this is a good point. thank you for the insight. whether a pregnancy continues to become a child is not up to us and you can just hope but also prepare

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just miscarried at 7 weeks with an initial beta of 31 at 14dpo which then quadrupled two days later and continued rising from there. I wish it had just been a chemical, or better yet, a BFN. I am in a Facebook group where several women have had success after similar first betas, but unfortunately I wasn't one of them, and now I think if I ever get a low beta again I will 100% expect the worst. I'm sorry OP. As others have said, it's possible everything will work out, but I would steel yourself.

this is terrifying. how did you get through each day wondering if it would continue or not?

I'm the original PP. As the saying goes, you just hope for the best and expect the worst. After the initial low beta I 100% expected a chemical and was planning the next FET, but then it looked like things were moving in the right direction. Every positive blood result was a small victory in and of itself. I still never calculated the due date or planned for anything beyond the next blood draw. I have experienced much, much more devastating losses and with my last successful pregnancy it wasn't until I held my child that I exhaled. Not even my coworkers (I work remotely) knew I was pregnant until I was in the hospital delivering.

did you have an ultrasound before you miscarried?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just miscarried at 7 weeks with an initial beta of 31 at 14dpo which then quadrupled two days later and continued rising from there. I wish it had just been a chemical, or better yet, a BFN. I am in a Facebook group where several women have had success after similar first betas, but unfortunately I wasn't one of them, and now I think if I ever get a low beta again I will 100% expect the worst. I'm sorry OP. As others have said, it's possible everything will work out, but I would steel yourself.

this is terrifying. how did you get through each day wondering if it would continue or not?

I'm the original PP. As the saying goes, you just hope for the best and expect the worst. After the initial low beta I 100% expected a chemical and was planning the next FET, but then it looked like things were moving in the right direction. Every positive blood result was a small victory in and of itself. I still never calculated the due date or planned for anything beyond the next blood draw. I have experienced much, much more devastating losses and with my last successful pregnancy it wasn't until I held my child that I exhaled. Not even my coworkers (I work remotely) knew I was pregnant until I was in the hospital delivering.

did you have an ultrasound before miscarrying?

[Anonymous]

My good friend had a stillbirth right before we got pregnant and a cousin lost a baby to SIDS. And I had two miscarriages.

I honestly didn't feel comfortable until my kids were each 6mo+. Less "terrified" with each passing day, but still the underlying fear was there for a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just miscarried at 7 weeks with an initial beta of 31 at 14dpo which then quadrupled two days later and continued rising from there. I wish it had just been a chemical, or better yet, a BFN. I am in a Facebook group where several women have had success after similar first betas, but unfortunately I wasn't one of them, and now I think if I ever get a low beta again I will 100% expect the worst. I'm sorry OP. As others have said, it's possible everything will work out, but I would steel yourself.

this is terrifying. how did you get through each day wondering if it would continue or not?

not the PP who you’re asking but I think with all things fertility you power through and move on because that’s all you can do. Weird question.

yes i'm sorry for all of us who have long, ugly fertility journeys - antidepressants help and just try to not get emotionally invested in procedure, phone call, test result or physical feeling

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just miscarried at 7 weeks with an initial beta of 31 at 14dpo which then quadrupled two days later and continued rising from there. I wish it had just been a chemical, or better yet, a BFN. I am in a Facebook group where several women have had success after similar first betas, but unfortunately I wasn't one of them, and now I think if I ever get a low beta again I will 100% expect the worst. I'm sorry OP. As others have said, it's possible everything will work out, but I would steel yourself.

this is terrifying. how did you get through each day wondering if it would continue or not?

I'm the original PP. As the saying goes, you just hope for the best and expect the worst. After the initial low beta I 100% expected a chemical and was planning the next FET, but then it looked like things were moving in the right direction. Every positive blood result was a small victory in and of itself. I still never calculated the due date or planned for anything beyond the next blood draw. I have experienced much, much more devastating losses and with my last successful pregnancy it wasn't until I held my child that I exhaled. Not even my coworkers (I work remotely) knew I was pregnant until I was in the hospital delivering.

did you have an ultrasound before miscarrying?

Yes, I had two ultrasounds. One around 6 weeks, where we only saw a gestational sac and then another at 7 weeks where we still only saw a sac. Diagnosis was blighted ovum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is always hope, and stories online with successful pregnancies. But I miscarried when my betas were that low

at what week did you miscarry?

[Anonymous]

I had two miscarriages that started with HCGs of 14 and 16, but the healthy baby I’m holding right now started at only 19. Took me months to really feel like I could relax though.