DS is in my sister’s wedding but doesn’t want to get dressed up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you ask him what he doesn’t like about it? Can he articulate it well enough to tell you?
When my daughter started kindergarten at catholic school. It turned out that she didn’t like that it wasn’t colorful when she wanted to wear rainbows. So, we figured out what we could do within the confines of the dress code and put a colorful bow in her hair, rainbow earrings, and a colorful glass cross necklace, and she was much happier.

O, for pete's sake.

A five year old has no idea what he doesn't like about it. He doesn't want to do it. End of story.

You bribe him OP. A new toy, a day at the zoo, ice cream... whatever it takes.

[Anonymous]

My 5 yr old hates wearing anything without pictures on it. We ironed on patches of rockets inside his suit jacket for a family wedding. He is also old enough that he is willing to wear something I ask him to for a set amount of time in exchange for a Halloween size candy bar. Actually for family photos we bribe him with gummy bears because they don’t pose the risk of melted chocolate or a blue tongue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you ask him what he doesn’t like about it? Can he articulate it well enough to tell you?
When my daughter started kindergarten at catholic school. It turned out that she didn’t like that it wasn’t colorful when she wanted to wear rainbows. So, we figured out what we could do within the confines of the dress code and put a colorful bow in her hair, rainbow earrings, and a colorful glass cross necklace, and she was much happier.

O, for pete's sake.

A five year old has no idea what he doesn't like about it. He doesn't want to do it. End of story.

You bribe him OP. A new toy, a day at the zoo, ice cream... whatever it takes.

Of course kids can have reasons for liking or not liking something. Do you ever talk to your kids? I just shared a story about my five year old saying what she didn’t like about her school uniform. Another poster shared a story about her three year old thinking they were going to have to cut his neck to attach the tie. I am not saying the reasons are logical or adult reasons, but they are reasons.

[Anonymous]

Can he pick a tie of his choice? Would your sister consider a different outfit? Little Boys can look adorable in long shorts (think Prince George)

[Anonymous]

Have him try everything on so it's familiar by the wedding. Then bribe. Take him with you to get something he wants and it stays in the trunk of the car. He does the wedding he gets the toy in the trunk when you arrive home. This worked for me. Stayed in the trunk "in case I have to return it."

[Anonymous]

We had a similar issue and it turned out that my son hated how scratchy the clothes were. He doesn’t normally have sensory issues but for some reason the fabric made him very upset. Washing a few times and wearing an undershirt rally helped us.

[Anonymous]

How he is reacting today might not at all be how he reacts a month from now when everyone is getting dressed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd bribe. It's a special day, not something that happens often, etc. Pick something you know he'd really want and say he can have it at the reception to play with (assuming it's appropriate). When DS was 4, he was the ring bearer in my best friends wedding. We bribed him for all the sitting around part. Getting ready, pictures, lining up, etc. He got some paw patrol toys to play with at the reception.

+1, my cousin was at the top of the aisle with Thomas train to get his son down the aisle at my other cousin’s wedding.

[Anonymous]

"This is what you're wearing for one hour, because I said so."

Is it really that foreign of a concept?

[Anonymous]

He’s five and you tell him that’s what he’s wearing. Seriously?