i've become that mom

[Anonymous]

Sleep. Alone time.
I think the first night (maybe the second) is the best night and then I start desperately missing everyone.

[Anonymous]

It's fine to wish you were home; it' fine to be happy you are gone. Just stop being judgmental to other people for whatever they are doing.

[Anonymous]

5 days seems long, for both of those ages. I would have split up the trips. And no I am not “that” mom. I regularly (as in, every 1-2 weeks) take a day away from my kids and don’t even think about them because I know they’re well cared for by DH and/or grandparents. But I wouldn’t disappear for the better part of a week.

[Anonymous]

You’re just a good mom, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5 days seems long, for both of those ages. I would have split up the trips. And no I am not “that” mom. I regularly (as in, every 1-2 weeks) take a day away from my kids and don’t even think about them because I know they’re well cared for by DH and/or grandparents. But I wouldn’t disappear for the better part of a week.

Way to try to kick OP while she’s down. Luckily everyone, including OP can see you coming from a mile away and dodge your BS judgmental post. Sometimes work travel can’t be helped. And you are that mom, not the one who misses her kids, because you’ve never had to be away that long, but the other kind that tries to be mean for no reason instead of supportive.

[Anonymous]

No it’s not good for everyone. It is good for you; but I guess not really if you don’t feel it?
Overall it is a lesson for you - do not judge. Neither yourself nor others. It is NORMAL to want to be close to your small children.
It is also normal to want a break. Just, don’t strain too much trying to be the cool mom who enjoys being away from her kids. It should come naturally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You feel like that because you are away from your infant. It’s completely normal not to feel good about that. It’s how the species survives.

+ 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5 days seems long, for both of those ages. I would have split up the trips. And no I am not “that” mom. I regularly (as in, every 1-2 weeks) take a day away from my kids and don’t even think about them because I know they’re well cared for by DH and/or grandparents. But I wouldn’t disappear for the better part of a week.

Agreed. However, you do you. Moms of young kids need the break to revive. Find your balance of what time you need away from them. Having dad and grandparents take care of them is the next best thing.

If you are not enjoying the trip then you don't need to be on the trip. There is no reason to torture yourself and your kids when the being away is leaving you miserable.

[Anonymous]

Ha ha! A mom missing her kids? What a strange idea.

[Anonymous]

Guessing your in laws think you’re weird for doing this?